Elizabeth Ann Caesar ~ birth story

Elizabeth’s birth story began a whole week before she was even born. For my weekly check ups with my OB at the hospital which was my 39 week check up, something came up that gave him a little bit of a scare, my blood pressure was way too high and wouldn’t come down, I was sent straight from his office to the birthing suit to be checked over. The midwife & ob both said if anything came up they would have to break my waters and she will be born that day which was the 16th of April.

Thankfully my blood test came back normal, and all check ups were fine and baby girl was happy as could be, they actually couldn’t explain what had happened and why. I was given the choice to be induced that day anyway or if I wanted to book in for a different day. As much as I was so ready to meet her I didn’t want to give birth in that very moment well I was all alone as hubby was still at work but was trying to leave etc. I told the midwife I just needed time to prepare still and booked in for Friday the 24th of April which is her actual due date.

My reasons for picking her actual due date was not only is it her due date but it would be a Friday, with everything going on in the world hubby and I have decided that because he is still working and his boss doesn’t know for how much longer every day counts as you never know what happens. So hubby was only going to take two days off work and take his “father’s leave” which the dad’s get given two weeks paid leave but have the choice to take it straight away or later down the track, we both decided he would take it at a later date. So with this all being said being booked in for Friday to give birth means he got to take Friday & following Monday which means he got four days out of two days taken off work. Friday, Saturday, Sunday & Monday. But if I went into labor naturally this also didn’t matter.

24th of April 2020.

We arrived at the hospital 6am and were ready to get the show on the road.

By 7am my waters were broken by our OB and the rest was up too me & baby girl.

Contractions started pretty much straight away, I was already 3cm dilated when my OB broke my waters so my body had already been getting the show on the road.

At the beginning of my birth journey my midwife asked what my plans were and I said I wanted to try doing the whole thing naturally but I don’t know if I can do that. Her response was what kept me going my whole birth and her simple words were this, “if you tell your mind you can, then you can. If you tell your mind you can’t then you can’t.” It’s all a mind control thing.. She also said women’s bodies are actually designed to birth and that I can do this.

My contractions began off slow and steady and very fast got really strong and I needed gas to help with the pain. My body just took over, I felt like something was wrong as I needed to push but it had only been a few hours into my labouring journey. My midwife checked me and said no I was “5cm” dilated… 20 minutes later I was screaming… and not a cute girl scream it was a “I’m going to kill someone scream.” The gas wasn’t cutting it and I felt her head, my midwife checked me with my next contraction and she said yes that’s a head “She has hair” ( we had spoken earlier how my first had no hair for months.) She grabbed a midwife and called my OB to come. From the two minutes she walked away to do that and come back baby girls head was out!

By the time my OB got to the room miss Elizabeth was already on my chest and out.

My birth story is something I think hubby and I will laugh about for years to come. Six hours and it was all over with, drug free birth and no need for stitches!? Kind of mind blown… No it was not easy at all and poor hubby almost lost his hair and I think I killed my midwifes ear drums. But I am so fam proud of myself and I’m so proud of hubby he was so supportive, holding my hand every contraction, he just sat there well I pulled his hair out when baby girls head was crowning and I was screaming in his ear, rubbing my back when I needed extra relife I hit the jackpot. And my midwife! She was amazing, she held my hand, also sat and chatted, was definitely a big support person and I honestly cried when she left at the end of her shift because she was so amazing.

But our birth story was short and sweet. But forever thankful for the learning experience and teaching myself that I can do it no matter what fears cross my mind. And yes I’m feeling like a boss well recorving.

39 weeks of love, our last pregnancy update

This will be my last ever pregnancy update on this blog, I’ve blogged both pregnancy and as I’ve reached my final week of pregnancy forever it’s a sad one. Although hubby said he would like a third I’m 100% done with this chapter of my life, I have my baby boy Lorenzo and now our sweet baby girl and I think I’m thankful every single day for them both.

Both pregnancy journeys have been so very different in their own little ways.

My last week of pregnancy was a busy one and of course our sweet baby girl had to keep her mummy & daddy on her toes. My week began with a routine ob check in that I have weekly until she is born. The morning of my check up I woke to the worst back cramps ever and just feeling off and not in control of my own body, I called my mum as hubby went to work and I just knew I needed help with my son Lorenzo. I was picked up and spent my morning under the watchful eyes of my parents well they helped me care for my two year old. I had my OB appointment at 9:30am my dad didn’t want me to drive so he drove me and waited in the car, the new hospital rules are set in place and dad unfortunately wasn’t aloud inside. When I finally got to see my OB we had a chat and he soon asked me random questions which most of them I replied with “no” which was good. He then took my blood pressure and that’s when it all went down hill. It was way too high, but he said let’s see what she’s up too and go back to that, I has my scan and her heartbeat and everything looked fine and she even kicked. My OB checked my blood pressure and again same number and hadn’t gone down, he waited a few moments and tried again… still the same number, next thing I knew he was on the phone and I was told to make my way to the birthing rooms at the hospital.

I left and walked over to my dad who I then told to go home as I didn’t know how long this would take and I’ll keep them updated. Once I was in the birthing room the midwife was so lovely and caring she could tell I was scared and started a convastion with me, I asked her what was going on as I didn’t have much information from the doctor, she said that having high blood pressure this late in pregnancy sometimes doesn’t mean anything good and they just wanted to rule out things, I was given a cup to pee in, my bloods taken and half an hour on the reading machine for baby girl. My blood pressure was high still and the midwife called my OB. She came back and said if it doesn’t go down they will break my waters today and baby girl has to come out for her safety and mine. More time passed.. My bloods were fine, my pee showed high levels of protien and my blood pressure finally went down, my OB came and checked up on me and asked what I would like to do, I knew I didn’t & wasn’t ready for her to be here just yet and I asked if we could pick a different day. My OB made it clear he didn’t want me going over 40 weeka and we picked our day and he was happy for me to go home and rest.

So yes this week was a bag full of mixed emotions and scares but all worth it because at the end of the day as long as she is here and healthy that’s the only thing that matters.

This week’s pregnant systems.

• sickness – if I don’t eat I feel sick, if I eat I feel sick.. thrown up a few times as well.

• back cramps

• lower pressure in pelvis area.

• cramping front and back.

• feel like ive been leaking on and off all week.

• finally sleeping again at night even if it’s only for four hours at a time.

• leg cramps. Can’t lay on my legs for too long.

Last bump photo.

She’s been kicking my ribs like crazy and at night I feel all of her even her head straight down there when I try to roll over.

Thank you all for following my pregnancy journey and I’m hoping to share all the newborn stage all over again, but who knows we might have to wait and see.

We made it! 37 weeks pregnant

Just like my OB said this week too me, we finally are “full term.” She can now come when ever she feels like it!

This weeks pregnant systems:

I wish I could say I’ve felt heaps of pregnant systems this week but the bigger she gets and the less room she has everything has slowed down heaps and even her movements have also slowed down.

• reflux- I now go to bed every night taking two reflux tablets.. both pregnancies I’ve had bad reflux..

• pelvic pain.. worst feeling in the world is definitely trying to roll over and your in that much pain it takes a good five minutes to do so.

• less kicks from her and now it’s more I feel her when she moves her little bum or when she has the hiccups etc.

How my OB appointment went.

I now see my OB every week as I’m two weeks away from my due date, this week’s check up was little bit of a exciting one. I learnt that she is head right down, her head is actually in my pelvic bone and that’s why I’ve been feeling lots of pressure, hospital term is she is engaged and ready to go. All my blood works have come back normal and that’s so good to here. Now I just have to wait until she is here which Hopfully is very soon.

Her chubby face all up in my pelvis area

Bump update:

37 weeks and 3 days

I want to start taking side photos of my belly as I feel like she has dropped but only a little tiny bit and would love to compare bump photos but I keep forgetting to do this and probably won’t now it’s too late.

Getting ready for Labour.

Now that I’m 38 weeks as I’m writing this I’ve begun getting my body ready for child birth and this is how.

• working out daily and doing lots of pelvic exercises to help with child birth.

• walking daily to just get her to keep moving down lower.

• red raspberry tea I’ve been having two cups a day.

• working on my breathing.

36 weeks pregnant with only 4 weeks to go

I did it, I made it to 36 weeks and I’m still going. This week has been so physically hard on my body and I can slowly feel myself shutting down so I know this is my body trying to tell me I’m done. This week was my first week not working and being on leave which felt weird but also nice at the same time, I did have pre plans for this time before baby girl makes her arrival into the world, I really wanted to enjoy my alone time with no hubby and having our two year old still in daycare. But the world has other plans for me right now and the big main one is doing my part and staying home and keeping this baby happy and healthy.

Hubby is still working which is good for right now as so many people are losing their jobs in Australia right now and we both decided to keep our son in daycare and keeping up with his normal routine as much as possible. I know a lot of parents will read this and not understand but I am not only a mother I too am a childcare educator, the centre that my son Lorenzo attends is the same place I work at and have worked at for the past five years. All the educators are bleaching toys and furniture daily and I know this for a fact as just last week I was one of them. all children from other age groups and rooms have been keeping their distance and all measurements have been put into place to continue a healthy environment. Not only am I 100% happy with how clean all the teachers are keeping the place, I know that childcare educators are at risk of losing their jobs for every child that is kept home or un-enrolling is one job taken from a childcare educator who has their own family to think about, Lorenzo will still be attending until our baby girl is born, hubby and I have spoken about once she is born we will keep him home for a while “we still are trying to work this out.” then re-send him when we know she is healthy and safe.

This weeks pregnant systems.

• reflux which has pretty much been a weekly update since hitting my third trimester.

• constipation but also at the same time normal bowel movements.. I know TMI

• heaps of movement from baby girl she’s deffiently running out of room.

• massive feeling like I need to push from my bum, lots of pressure in that area I think she must be very low.

Bump update.

Had a OB check up this week, baby girl is head down still and very active and moving around which is good. My blood pressure was a little low for the OB and he did check it twice and it didn’t pick up and then the next day my mother “who used to be a midwife.” checked it herself and it was still low, so I’m trying to keep my water levels up as I think it’s because I’ve been slack and not drinking heaps of water as I should be.

Baby girls heart rate was good, the blood flow etc was good. was sent for a blood test which I’ll get the results back on Monday when I see my OB as we are now at weekly check ups until she arrives into this world.

I can’t wait to see what week 37 brings to the table or if she comes next week or not.

The Caesar Family.

Scared to give birth at such a devastating time

I wasn’t going to comment or make such a blog about the covid- 19 as I think everyone clearly knows about what’s happening in the world right now and you really don’t need one more person reminding you to take better care of ourselves. But as I went food shopping today and saw these two elderly people struggling to walk and push their own trolly and all I wanted to do was offer help.. which I stilled did even knowing they can’t accept it, that moment was probably the hardest for me and I began to cry.

To top everything off we received a email from our hospital with some updated rules that are now set in place to help protect myself and baby girl when she’s born and other hospital staff.

No longer will I have family members come and visit myself or baby girl or friends as I’m only aloud one person daily which clearly will be hubby as he wants to be with his new child as much as possible. But no children under the age of 16 are aloud in hospital which means my two year old son can’t visit and meet his new baby sister until we are home, I get why these rules are in place and I’m 100% ok with that but it still hurts.

My sweet baby girls birth will always be a story and not for the right reasons, I will always look back at this when my child was born when the virus was so bad the whole world was put on lock down, I will always remember that my mother was at my son’s birth but missed my daughter’s and not because she wanted to but because she had too. I’ll always remember being alone in a hospital room well waiting to take my baby girl home and in a safe place.

I understand why these rules are set in place and I agree with all of them for the safety and wellbeing of everyone right now but it doesn’t make it easier for me, a moment for me that I was looking forward too has now changed too a moment I’m scared about, a moment I feel anxious about. A moment I feel worried about. Which I shouldn’t feel this way about the birth of my second but that’s just the reality of the world right now. So now I’m trying to prepare myself for the birth of my sweet baby girl in a completely new setting.

My new birth plan at this stage is too just be ok, to breath and try and take in all the good moments and let go of those other feelings. To try and not get too inside my own head when it’s just me and baby girl in hospital… that’s my new birth plan.

35 week pregnancy update

Things are getting real for us, gone are the weeks that they felt so slow and I was pregnant forever… now I’m writing up my 35th pregnancy weekly update well I’m “late” and already a few days into week 36..

But here is my 35 week pregnancy update better late than never.

This weeks pregnant systems:

• she is deffiently lower! This week I’ve struggled walking long distances as she gets right down low.

• having a full time sleep in the thing of a past

• reflux it hits really bad when I’m lying in my bed at night.

Bump update:

Im 100% ready for baby girl to make her arrival into the world as I’m so over being pregnant. But I know she is safer in my belly right now with everything going on in the world right now.

It Was my last week of work this week and as sad as I was leaving my children in my class room I’m so happy to be resting and relaxing a little before baby girl is here.

33 weeks

As the weeks keep passing along I’m getting more and more ready to meet our sweet baby girl. I’m actually starting to get my hopes up over and over again that this week will finally be the week she comes even though I know I’m only 33 weeks and it’s still way to early but I think I’m just getting over it.

This weeks pregnant systems have been.

• Braxton hicks

• on and off sleep

• sickness and diarrhea on and off.

• engrey levels low.

• everything is starting to feel tight and I’m struggling to breath and gone are the days of sitting on the floor with the kids at work or with my son at home.

• I actually feel like I’m losing weight like my face is getting slimer and I’m not holding that water weight as much as I was last week.

Ob check up:

Every two weeks I see my OB at the hospital and this week was my check up. Baby girl is doing well she’s 70% cooked which apparently is a little on the chubby side but her head is still measuring smaller but blood flow etc is good. Her little head is now in my pelvis area and he said she will probably stay head down now until she’s ready to come and make it into the world.

Don’t ask what I’m looking at because I don’t know.

The weeks seem to be going slower and I’m starting to get more and more tired of pregnancy.. I’m trying so hard to enjoy these last few weeks as I’ll never get them back but man I can’t wait for baby girl to be here.

Can’t wait to see what 34 weeks of pregnancy brings me.

What’s in my hospital bag for baby number two!

I remember my first pregnancy with my now two year old Lorenzo, I was put on bed rest due to issues with my body and I was told to be prepared so of course as a first time mother I packed his hospital bag I think before I was even 30 weeks pregnant… fast forward to now, two years later and my second pregnancy having Braxton hicks daily and yet didn’t start packing my hospital bag until I was 33 weeks pregnant oh how times have changed.

I’ll have that blog linked down below if your interested in seeing what I packed for baby number one compared to baby number two.

https://newmummyblogger94.blog/2017/12/19/whats-in-my-hospital-bag-%F0%9F%92%BC/amp/

I have two bags one for baby girl and one for me. First I’ll show you everything in baby girls hospital bag.

Her bag is from mimco

I’ve put all her outfits into little zip lock bags and easy to get too etc.

One thing I learnt from my first pregnancy is that having everything together and easy to reach when needed is the way too go. And sorry husbands but also just easier for the men who don’t understand that a crazy pregnant lady had already pre planned what outfits will look better together.

Ive packed four outfits for baby girl as I was told we would be in hospital for max a week but I really want to leave ealier then that if i can. Last time I packed nine and that was way too much! So again ive learnt a lot from my first time around and I think four outfits are are a good amount.

Each outfit has also been packed with a singlet and a pair of socks as we are heading into winter and it will be a chilly one.

Most of her outfits are from bonds as I’m in love with bonds.

I’ve even packed a few extra hats and mittens for her head and hands to stay warm.

When we went to our last hospital “we have chosen a different hospital, this time around.” We had so many different midwifes stay how to wrap up our baby and how we were doing it wrong.. again this is just the journey of learning as first time parents. This time around I’m not putting myself in that position again so we have packed a baby swaddle that is a zip up and easy to use and no need for worry about if she’s wrapped the correct way.

Our next little thing we packed is her name tag we had made for us for her arrival photo when we are in hospital. I can’t show you the front as it has her name but I can’t wait until she’s here to show you the front of it.

Our last two items for baby girls hospital bag are her nappies and wipes. I forgot how cute newborn nappies are.

Now that I’ve covered baby girls hospital bag I can finally show you mine.

First things first the pads… the postpartum life isn’t that sexy.

In the front pocket I have 3 nursering bras and a whole heaps of granny undies.

Lose fitted PJ top easy to lift up when breast feeding and comfy for the hospital and warm.

Comfy pj pants

Going home outfit. Comfy black pants and just a comfy top and again easy for breast feeding.

For my hospital stay I have two outfits as I’m sure I’ll just live in my PJs.. I have this lose fitted top that has buttons again easy for breast feeding.

With the lose fitted top I’ve paired it with my comfy pregnancy pants to hide my postpartum belly.

My second hospital stay outfit is just a oversized dress something comfy to just be around the hospital in.

Bathroom bag.

I’ve got a travel sized bathroom bag to pack into my hospital bag which I’ve just packed.

• hair brush

• toothbrush and toothpaste

• travel size shampoo

• dry shampoo in case I just don’t have time to wash my hair.

• make up bag

•body wash

• deorent

• breast feeding pads

• towel

• paw paw cream for dry skin

Extras that have been packed.

• phone charger

• camera

•phone

• wallet with my money and heath care cards etc. The important stuff.

That pretty much covers everything I need to pack for the hospital. Only one month left until baby girl is finally here

31 weeks and over it

This week was a hard week… I feel like I’m just repeating myself every week when I day this but I guess as I’m getting closer and closer to my due date things are just getting crazy.

I was one big emotional mess this week. Found myself crying myself to sleep one night thinking the hubby doesn’t love me anymore.. he does and I’m just that crazy pregnant women.

We finally began getting the hospital bags ready for her arrival this week. We chatted with everyone in my family about our game plan for the hospital and who would come take care of our son, we spoke with our photograph about our photos coming up and paid that all off. We did a lot dispite feeling so emotionally run down and tired.

This week’s pregnant systems

• every time I blow my nose I now always have a little blood mixed with it.

• Braxton hicks happen a lot! When I’m at work I’ll get them twice a day just by being on my feet or if I clean my house etc, sometimes super painful and others just normal cramping. I guess second pregnancy it’s a normal thing.

• I wake every night now on and off sleep has become a normal thing which my body is just used to and I guess it’s only going to get worse when she’s born.

• leg cramps at night and super painful

• dizziness

• not hungry as much anymore and don’t really get to finish a whole meal and some nights I’ve gone without dinner because I just don’t feel like it.

• shortness of breath.

• at the end of a working day my feet are puffy, my rings don’t feet my fingers…

• very emotional

Bump update:

Our OB check up.

We saw our OB this week as we now see him every two weeks. I spoke about the Braxton hicks and the spotting I had last week… he was worried about the bleeding and if it happens again I have to go in straight away and not wait. As for all my Braxton hicks… Well I guess I just have to get used to them until she comes.

Only 8 weeks left now! I can’t wait to meet my sweet baby girl and have our family finally feel complete.

Everything you need to know in your third trimester 🤰

At work the other day I was having a conversion with my friends about childbirth it was probably a very funny conversation for me and not so much for them. But the reason we got on the subject about child birth was because I’ve begun having Braxton hicks at work.. anyway this made me more aware of just how little women are actually educated about what it’s really like being pregnant and in your third trimester.

So this brings me to my topic of everything that happens in your third trimester.

Things I wish women told me.

• make a check list, I’ll be sharing mine with you all very soon.

• it’s ok to say no to going out and being social, it doesn’t mean your a bad friend and if your like me and the first one out of your friends to have babies. One day your friends will get it and until that day just let them be mad because one day they will look back and say sorry.

• date nights are important, making time with your husband or partner is still so important.

• make time for you! Be selfish go out alone and enjoy it because for the next few years your going to have a very depent little human who needs there mother And sorry to my husband but also him.

• journal everything or in my case blog! Now this is my second pregnancy and I’ve had this blog since my pregnancy with Lorenzo who is now two years old. I still look back and read his birth blog and those milestones I had with him and I love that! I also have a little box that I’ve made him for when he’s older it has all these letters I’ve written from the time I was pregnant to his first birthday. Any keep sakers are a memory You don’t want to lose.

• don’t fear childbirth, because it’s not actually the worst feeling in the world. The contradictions are harder than the pushing.

• hormones are wild! I found myself on Google the other day trying to find ways to calm myself down I woke up just in the worst mood for no reason.

• don’t plan on walking a whole heap because when you do it hurts like a bitch and you start getting shortness of breath.

• prepare your friends and family, set some ground rules and make sure everyone is on the same page. Again what I mean by this is tell them when it’s ok to come visit and when it’s not. Make sure they know if they are sick to please not come up and visit. Little things like this might not seem important but they are trust me.

Practical things you should definitely be doing by now.

• birth plan – now I’ve said many times yes it’s great to have one but also don’t have to higher of expectations because anything can happen. If you would like to read my birth plan for both pregnancy they are up on my blog.

• pack the hospital bag! Nothing worse than being and feeling unprepared.

• go get your car seat fitted or shown how to install it correctly and safely. With Lorenzo we went to our local fire station and for baby girl when we picked her car seat up from baby bunting we asked and they had a safety person on shift at the time to show us and when we place it in our car we can go back and see if it’s done correctly.

• get to know all your baby items. Play around with your pram practice getting it in and out of your car the best and easiest way and any other items you think you need to get to know. Yes you will be completely silly but trust me nothing worse than a crying new born stuck in her car seat well you try and work out how to fold out the pram…

• classes are your best friend. With Lorenzo I never went to the breast feeding class that was offered to me… boy oh boy do I regret that! They are so helpful you have no idea.

• tour the hospital. Book a tour of where you’ll be get prepared and know your areas well. So helpful and important.

• get the house ready, yes the baby room and and where he or she will sleep is important but it’s not the only thing, make dinners and freeze them down so on night your both tired you can just re-heat. Do a full clean out and make the house as tidy as possible because trust me your going to want to do that after their born so might as well start well pregnant. Do heaps of washing and keep up to date because you’ll forget to do a load of washing some days after child birth and nothing is worse than running out of clean undies.

• stock up on after care items, do this well your pregnant and it’s fresh on your mind. One thing I wished I stocked up more of was breast feeding pads, pads etc.

• do a massive shop in the week or two leading up to the birth of your child, stock up on toilet paper, cleaning supplies, bathroom items. Because trust me the last thing you want to be doing or your partner is running back and forth to the shops because you’ve run out of these things with a two week old baby. All you to do is not wear a bra and be in comfy clothes enjoying your little bundle of joy.

My 3rd trimester check list:

• birth plan – if you would like to see mine it’s already up on my blog page. Just head to the search bar and add in my birth plan and you’ll find both for each of my children.

• take a breast feeding class or chat with someone.

• clean the house before baby girls arrival and when my sister comes to house sit well I’m in labor.

• put the nursey together

• buy everything I need before her birth.

• pack the hospital bag

• tour the hospital

• take as many photos of this last stage as possible.

• plan for newborn baby photos

• start her baby book.

• fit the car seat in and clean my car out.

• get my aftercare kit ready and have it in my bathroom.

• make sure to spend as much one on one time with my son before he becomes a big brother.

For me this pretty much covers everything I can do to be prepared for baby girls arrival. I have my hospital bag left to pack and I’ve made a blog for that as I’m going to list everything one item at a time.