Two months earth side

Our little woman is two months and I can’t deal. With Lorenzo I always thought the months went so slow and the newborn stage would never end and now I’m sad because the months just keep flying by and pretty soon she will be one and my baby days will officially be over for good.

Two months and this is how we are going.

I’ve definitely adjusted to being a mother of two and feel more balanced than what I was like the first month. Some days are hard and other days I’ve got all my ducks in a row and killing this whole motherhood gig.

We finally are having a bit of a routine in the Caesar household and now working with Elizabeth and her cues. The only thing I still need to work on is time for myself, finding time to have alone time is so important for me to stay a happy mum and not feel overwhelmed and at the moment trying to find five minutes to myself is still so hard but again this will take time and slowly come again. 

How breastfeeding is going?

Two months in and breastfeeding is finally feeling normal and natural for me. Elizabeth is doing well with her night feeding and has a big five hour break from her first feed to the next. She now feeds from

6:30-7pm she has her first feed.

7:30pm her and I go into the room and turn the lights off and close the door away from her loud brother. This is when I pat her and play soothing music in the background. 

She sleeps from 7:30pm-11pm.

Feeds until about 11:30pm or midnight then goes back down until 3:30am.

Her last feed is 5am then she’s back asleep until 7am.

So yes as you can see she does well at night with her feeds and this works for us.

Unfortunately I can’t say the same about her day feeds. If she could be feeding all day long she would be. But I’ve been pretty strict with her this past month and we are working on bigger breaks in-between her day feeds. I’m trying to get her into a every 3 hour feeding routine so I make sure I have written the time her feeds end and I will count from that time for when her next feed will be. 

My sleeping beauty

Elizabeth and sleep was a battle in the beginning but I’m happy to report she’s improved heaps this month. Last month she was only sleeping on me and hated her bed, this month she’s sleeping so well at night and in her own bed it’s amazing. Unfortunately we are still working on date naps in her own bed but again this will take time and it’s all about baby steps.

Six weeks check up.

Elizabeth had her six weeks check up and shots, we learned that she’s put on 2kgs but we also learnt she is tounge tied. Unfortunately this means she needs surgery to correct it. We booked this in for the 2nd of July and hopefully this will mean dummies and bottles as she hasn’t been able to take these two items and is very fussy most of the time.

Postpartum body update.

Two months from today I gave birth, I’ve been slowly working on my health & fitness. I’ve been on youfoodz since our one month update and have been keeping up with my fitness. Unfortunately I did have one bad week when my lady friend began for the first time since before pregnancy, I think that week I just craved sugars and soft drink and gave in. But I soon got on track.

How’s Lorenzo taking his big brother duties.

Lorenzo is such a good brother to his baby sister. When I was pregnant I’m going to be honest I really didn’t think he would be good but I was proven wrong by him. He is forever giving cuddles & kisses and is very protective to the point he will yell at you that she’s his baby girl.

Two month milestones

° Elizabeth can hold her own neck up for a few minutes by herself.

° smiles and giggles

° can focus objects and people around her.

° longer sleeps in-between feeds at night

° starting to get her baby talk on.

° Elizabeth has found her hands and feet.

Our first week as a family of four.

Can’t believe our baby girl is already a week old, I can’t believe a week ago I was leaving the hospital and taking our fresh baby home to meet her big brother.

So much has happened this week I don’t even know where to begin so I’ve decided to break this up into three parts.

How mumma bear is coping?

This one is a hard one for me to answer right now as I don’t really know how I’m feeling.. some days I’m on top of the world and got the hang of parenting two children and other days I’m a bag full of miss matched emotions… not going to like no one really prepares you for the going home stage, the stage where you now have a two year old and a newborn and your on your own no help from midwifes or doctors and that shit is scary. My first night home I think I just cried & cried… actually i think most of week one was spent crying.

Of course when I fell pregnant we didn’t have this whole #COVID 19 stuff to deal with… now that we do here’s where my world is at, I have a two year old at home with me 24/7 plus a newborn all well the hubby is still working full time, our rules are slowly changing and we can now leave the house to go for walks or a drive etc.. So this will help me out big time in the next coming weeks but still in a normal world my busy toddler would be going to daycare but instead I’m planning activities, trying to keep the house a float, breastfeed a newborn and try and shower and find time for myself.. So yes i think my emotions are semi normal.

Breastfeeding journey.

I might get a lot of heat for saying this, but I don’t enjoy breastfeeding well at least for the moment I don’t find it enjoyable at all… women who say it comes naturally and you just pick up the cues etc…. please tell me what I’m doing wrong because she spends half her nights on my boob and not wanting to sleep or be more them 2cm away from myself or my boobs.. my boobs are sore, it doesn’t feel natural to me and I honestly don’t know how much longer I will continue breastfeeding for.. I’m trying to see if my body and baby girl togther if we naturally get the hang of it soon as yes I know it’s only been a week, but I’m doing this for her not me, if it was up to just myself I would be formula feeding her already as I think fed is best no matter how our children are fed. But she loves my boobs and this bonding time togther so I continue for her happiness &wellbeing.

How my toddler is coping with change.

There’s so much changing in my little man’s life right now it scares me, he’s no longer at daycare and around his friends and teachers a environment he’s been raised in since he was five months old, and for how long we are at home togther is still so unclear and the unknown scares me just as much as I’m sure it scares him, plus we have the added new family member that any child gets a little funny when a new sibling is added into into the mix, so yes I would say Lorenzo is coping but only by how he knows how. I’m trying to balance my time and spend one on one time with Lorenzo as much as I can right now and make sure he still feels loved and not left out but it is hard. I’ve bought a whole heap of craft activities to keep us both busy at home togther.

But I will say he does have his moment, his sweet moments of kisses and cuddles and wanting to hold his “baby” so I know he will soon come around and life will feel normal for him soon.

I’m hoping the weeks begin to ease, things begin to settle and life becomes some what normal.. which I know normal will never be the same again but a normal routine would be nice.

Elizabeth Ann Caesar ~ birth story

Elizabeth’s birth story began a whole week before she was even born. For my weekly check ups with my OB at the hospital which was my 39 week check up, something came up that gave him a little bit of a scare, my blood pressure was way too high and wouldn’t come down, I was sent straight from his office to the birthing suit to be checked over. The midwife & ob both said if anything came up they would have to break my waters and she will be born that day which was the 16th of April.

Thankfully my blood test came back normal, and all check ups were fine and baby girl was happy as could be, they actually couldn’t explain what had happened and why. I was given the choice to be induced that day anyway or if I wanted to book in for a different day. As much as I was so ready to meet her I didn’t want to give birth in that very moment well I was all alone as hubby was still at work but was trying to leave etc. I told the midwife I just needed time to prepare still and booked in for Friday the 24th of April which is her actual due date.

My reasons for picking her actual due date was not only is it her due date but it would be a Friday, with everything going on in the world hubby and I have decided that because he is still working and his boss doesn’t know for how much longer every day counts as you never know what happens. So hubby was only going to take two days off work and take his “father’s leave” which the dad’s get given two weeks paid leave but have the choice to take it straight away or later down the track, we both decided he would take it at a later date. So with this all being said being booked in for Friday to give birth means he got to take Friday & following Monday which means he got four days out of two days taken off work. Friday, Saturday, Sunday & Monday. But if I went into labor naturally this also didn’t matter.

24th of April 2020.

We arrived at the hospital 6am and were ready to get the show on the road.

By 7am my waters were broken by our OB and the rest was up too me & baby girl.

Contractions started pretty much straight away, I was already 3cm dilated when my OB broke my waters so my body had already been getting the show on the road.

At the beginning of my birth journey my midwife asked what my plans were and I said I wanted to try doing the whole thing naturally but I don’t know if I can do that. Her response was what kept me going my whole birth and her simple words were this, “if you tell your mind you can, then you can. If you tell your mind you can’t then you can’t.” It’s all a mind control thing.. She also said women’s bodies are actually designed to birth and that I can do this.

My contractions began off slow and steady and very fast got really strong and I needed gas to help with the pain. My body just took over, I felt like something was wrong as I needed to push but it had only been a few hours into my labouring journey. My midwife checked me and said no I was “5cm” dilated… 20 minutes later I was screaming… and not a cute girl scream it was a “I’m going to kill someone scream.” The gas wasn’t cutting it and I felt her head, my midwife checked me with my next contraction and she said yes that’s a head “She has hair” ( we had spoken earlier how my first had no hair for months.) She grabbed a midwife and called my OB to come. From the two minutes she walked away to do that and come back baby girls head was out!

By the time my OB got to the room miss Elizabeth was already on my chest and out.

My birth story is something I think hubby and I will laugh about for years to come. Six hours and it was all over with, drug free birth and no need for stitches!? Kind of mind blown… No it was not easy at all and poor hubby almost lost his hair and I think I killed my midwifes ear drums. But I am so fam proud of myself and I’m so proud of hubby he was so supportive, holding my hand every contraction, he just sat there well I pulled his hair out when baby girls head was crowning and I was screaming in his ear, rubbing my back when I needed extra relife I hit the jackpot. And my midwife! She was amazing, she held my hand, also sat and chatted, was definitely a big support person and I honestly cried when she left at the end of her shift because she was so amazing.

But our birth story was short and sweet. But forever thankful for the learning experience and teaching myself that I can do it no matter what fears cross my mind. And yes I’m feeling like a boss well recorving.

What’s in my hospital bag for baby number two!

I remember my first pregnancy with my now two year old Lorenzo, I was put on bed rest due to issues with my body and I was told to be prepared so of course as a first time mother I packed his hospital bag I think before I was even 30 weeks pregnant… fast forward to now, two years later and my second pregnancy having Braxton hicks daily and yet didn’t start packing my hospital bag until I was 33 weeks pregnant oh how times have changed.

I’ll have that blog linked down below if your interested in seeing what I packed for baby number one compared to baby number two.

https://newmummyblogger94.blog/2017/12/19/whats-in-my-hospital-bag-%F0%9F%92%BC/amp/

I have two bags one for baby girl and one for me. First I’ll show you everything in baby girls hospital bag.

Her bag is from mimco

I’ve put all her outfits into little zip lock bags and easy to get too etc.

One thing I learnt from my first pregnancy is that having everything together and easy to reach when needed is the way too go. And sorry husbands but also just easier for the men who don’t understand that a crazy pregnant lady had already pre planned what outfits will look better together.

Ive packed four outfits for baby girl as I was told we would be in hospital for max a week but I really want to leave ealier then that if i can. Last time I packed nine and that was way too much! So again ive learnt a lot from my first time around and I think four outfits are are a good amount.

Each outfit has also been packed with a singlet and a pair of socks as we are heading into winter and it will be a chilly one.

Most of her outfits are from bonds as I’m in love with bonds.

I’ve even packed a few extra hats and mittens for her head and hands to stay warm.

When we went to our last hospital “we have chosen a different hospital, this time around.” We had so many different midwifes stay how to wrap up our baby and how we were doing it wrong.. again this is just the journey of learning as first time parents. This time around I’m not putting myself in that position again so we have packed a baby swaddle that is a zip up and easy to use and no need for worry about if she’s wrapped the correct way.

Our next little thing we packed is her name tag we had made for us for her arrival photo when we are in hospital. I can’t show you the front as it has her name but I can’t wait until she’s here to show you the front of it.

Our last two items for baby girls hospital bag are her nappies and wipes. I forgot how cute newborn nappies are.

Now that I’ve covered baby girls hospital bag I can finally show you mine.

First things first the pads… the postpartum life isn’t that sexy.

In the front pocket I have 3 nursering bras and a whole heaps of granny undies.

Lose fitted PJ top easy to lift up when breast feeding and comfy for the hospital and warm.

Comfy pj pants

Going home outfit. Comfy black pants and just a comfy top and again easy for breast feeding.

For my hospital stay I have two outfits as I’m sure I’ll just live in my PJs.. I have this lose fitted top that has buttons again easy for breast feeding.

With the lose fitted top I’ve paired it with my comfy pregnancy pants to hide my postpartum belly.

My second hospital stay outfit is just a oversized dress something comfy to just be around the hospital in.

Bathroom bag.

I’ve got a travel sized bathroom bag to pack into my hospital bag which I’ve just packed.

• hair brush

• toothbrush and toothpaste

• travel size shampoo

• dry shampoo in case I just don’t have time to wash my hair.

• make up bag

•body wash

• deorent

• breast feeding pads

• towel

• paw paw cream for dry skin

Extras that have been packed.

• phone charger

• camera

•phone

• wallet with my money and heath care cards etc. The important stuff.

That pretty much covers everything I need to pack for the hospital. Only one month left until baby girl is finally here

Everything you need to know in your third trimester 🤰

At work the other day I was having a conversion with my friends about childbirth it was probably a very funny conversation for me and not so much for them. But the reason we got on the subject about child birth was because I’ve begun having Braxton hicks at work.. anyway this made me more aware of just how little women are actually educated about what it’s really like being pregnant and in your third trimester.

So this brings me to my topic of everything that happens in your third trimester.

Things I wish women told me.

• make a check list, I’ll be sharing mine with you all very soon.

• it’s ok to say no to going out and being social, it doesn’t mean your a bad friend and if your like me and the first one out of your friends to have babies. One day your friends will get it and until that day just let them be mad because one day they will look back and say sorry.

• date nights are important, making time with your husband or partner is still so important.

• make time for you! Be selfish go out alone and enjoy it because for the next few years your going to have a very depent little human who needs there mother And sorry to my husband but also him.

• journal everything or in my case blog! Now this is my second pregnancy and I’ve had this blog since my pregnancy with Lorenzo who is now two years old. I still look back and read his birth blog and those milestones I had with him and I love that! I also have a little box that I’ve made him for when he’s older it has all these letters I’ve written from the time I was pregnant to his first birthday. Any keep sakers are a memory You don’t want to lose.

• don’t fear childbirth, because it’s not actually the worst feeling in the world. The contradictions are harder than the pushing.

• hormones are wild! I found myself on Google the other day trying to find ways to calm myself down I woke up just in the worst mood for no reason.

• don’t plan on walking a whole heap because when you do it hurts like a bitch and you start getting shortness of breath.

• prepare your friends and family, set some ground rules and make sure everyone is on the same page. Again what I mean by this is tell them when it’s ok to come visit and when it’s not. Make sure they know if they are sick to please not come up and visit. Little things like this might not seem important but they are trust me.

Practical things you should definitely be doing by now.

• birth plan – now I’ve said many times yes it’s great to have one but also don’t have to higher of expectations because anything can happen. If you would like to read my birth plan for both pregnancy they are up on my blog.

• pack the hospital bag! Nothing worse than being and feeling unprepared.

• go get your car seat fitted or shown how to install it correctly and safely. With Lorenzo we went to our local fire station and for baby girl when we picked her car seat up from baby bunting we asked and they had a safety person on shift at the time to show us and when we place it in our car we can go back and see if it’s done correctly.

• get to know all your baby items. Play around with your pram practice getting it in and out of your car the best and easiest way and any other items you think you need to get to know. Yes you will be completely silly but trust me nothing worse than a crying new born stuck in her car seat well you try and work out how to fold out the pram…

• classes are your best friend. With Lorenzo I never went to the breast feeding class that was offered to me… boy oh boy do I regret that! They are so helpful you have no idea.

• tour the hospital. Book a tour of where you’ll be get prepared and know your areas well. So helpful and important.

• get the house ready, yes the baby room and and where he or she will sleep is important but it’s not the only thing, make dinners and freeze them down so on night your both tired you can just re-heat. Do a full clean out and make the house as tidy as possible because trust me your going to want to do that after their born so might as well start well pregnant. Do heaps of washing and keep up to date because you’ll forget to do a load of washing some days after child birth and nothing is worse than running out of clean undies.

• stock up on after care items, do this well your pregnant and it’s fresh on your mind. One thing I wished I stocked up more of was breast feeding pads, pads etc.

• do a massive shop in the week or two leading up to the birth of your child, stock up on toilet paper, cleaning supplies, bathroom items. Because trust me the last thing you want to be doing or your partner is running back and forth to the shops because you’ve run out of these things with a two week old baby. All you to do is not wear a bra and be in comfy clothes enjoying your little bundle of joy.

My 3rd trimester check list:

• birth plan – if you would like to see mine it’s already up on my blog page. Just head to the search bar and add in my birth plan and you’ll find both for each of my children.

• take a breast feeding class or chat with someone.

• clean the house before baby girls arrival and when my sister comes to house sit well I’m in labor.

• put the nursey together

• buy everything I need before her birth.

• pack the hospital bag

• tour the hospital

• take as many photos of this last stage as possible.

• plan for newborn baby photos

• start her baby book.

• fit the car seat in and clean my car out.

• get my aftercare kit ready and have it in my bathroom.

• make sure to spend as much one on one time with my son before he becomes a big brother.

For me this pretty much covers everything I can do to be prepared for baby girls arrival. I have my hospital bag left to pack and I’ve made a blog for that as I’m going to list everything one item at a time.

My own fears about breastfeeding baby no.2

If you’ve been following my blog since my son’s birth two years ago then you might remember my breast feeding journey with him. If your new to my blog let me give you the short version and try and link my breastfeeding blog for you too go back on and have a read if you like.

http://breastfeeding struggles

But to break it down for you guys. Lorenzo birth was a very interesting… They called my birth a “brow birth.” This is

But because of this his heart rate dropped and he got scared as he got stuck… So when he first was born he was actually taken away from me for heaps of testing this is when they found out his sugar levels were below 2.6 and because my breast milk didn’t come in until day five which was too late he needed to be formula fed straight away to get his sugar levels up and for us to be given the ok to leave the hospital.

And this is where my fears for baby girl come in and my breastfeeding journey with her. We also didn’t find out until Lorenzo was probably about five months old that he was also dairy intorlant so of course when I did try to breast feed he wasn’t having a bar of it because he was getting really bad colic because of this…

Now that Lorenzo is two we just had his check up with his doctor and he’s now been confirmed dairy intorlant and that baby girl will most likely be the same as it runs in the family on his dad’s side. I’m so glad we have been given the heads up it means I get this time to prepare myself unlike last time. And also gives me a time to make a plan.

I would be lying if I said I don’t mind not breastfeeding as I really want to have this experience with at least one of my kids. But I also know that a fed baby is a happy baby no matter how they get their milk supply from. But yes I’m going to try my best to breast feed baby girl.

After doing some research, I’ve found many conflicting stories and people say something different every time.

This is what Lorenzo had.

After lots of reading and based on all the articles I’ve had a read of if I change my diet and not only eat healthier and cut out dairy I will still be able to breastfeed.

But this is where all my questions come into play and maybe I need to look into a breastfeeding consolent.

• do I begin cutting out dairy now that I’m going into my third trimester?

• should I cut out dairy or should I still be adding in these types of fats?

• will I be able to do this?

So many questions!? But this is where I’ll leave the blog on this topic as I have decided to see someone for some support and extra help which I will write a new blog all about.

The Caesar family ❌

How we are preparing our toddler for our new arrival

Welcoming a new baby into the family is something you can’t just expect a child to wake up one day and Understand. I’ve been a educator for nine years and I’ve seen many families welcome in new babies into their families and first hand how these children have reacted.

When it comes to my own son I’ve been honest with him right from the start about our pregnancy so he’s been made aware from day one to now. We are 13 weeks away from welcoming his new baby sister and here’s what we have been doing to make him prepared and not surprised by her arrival.

Our first big thing is Lorenzo has been 100% involved in this journey just as much as both hubby & I have. When we told him we showed him where babies come from and yes you may think how would a two year old even understand, it’s not about him understanding it’s more having him build and get used to the idea someone will be joining in his comfort circle. He’s come to a hospital appointment with me and I’ve made him aware of the hospital, I’ve shown and spoken about all my scans. When we knew it was a baby girl we have never not called her baby girl as baby girl and once we knew her name we have also been calling her name when he’s around.

The second thing we have been doing is not hiding watching baby videos and letting him see a new born baby cry, we have been playing old baby videos of himself. There’s one thing knowing what a baby is but also understanding that the real thing isn’t like a doll and you can’t just throw it on the floor when your bored. We have made him aware but having him there when we moved his old crib into her soon to be room and talking not him about how it’s her bed now and that he has his big brother bed for his big brother room.

Our third thing that has changed is we are trying to have some “special” time with Lorenzo before our baby girls arrival. I’ve seen the effects of what new babies bring to the other child and we understand Lorenzo will take a while to adjust as it’s a completely new thing. I know that when our girl is here for the first few weeks my time will be divided big time! And most of that time will be with her and I myself am a little sad about this as I don’t ever want Lorenzo to feel left out or un-loved by me any less, so yes these past few weeks Lorenzo has been getting one on one time a lot with his mummy. Making special memories with him and making sure he know no matter what he is always baby boy and a new baby doesn’t mean I don’t love him any less.

Our fourth thing we did but was kind of our first is we looked for children books all about babies and becoming a big brother, every night we read a story as a family so we made sure some nights a week “not every night” because he would get sick of it. But most nights he reads all about being a big brother and all the things he can help with, then we discuss this as a family for example we have asked if he will help mummy feed his baby sister, or brush her hair etc.

Our fifth change is giving Lorenzo more responsibility, as he will be a big brother we have tried to make him start doing little things for himself as he’s a “big boy” now. After dinner he now throws his bowl or plate into the kitchen sink, he also opens the fridge and gets his own juice out ” we have filled a bottle of water” something easy for him to carry to us and we make him put it back himself. He helps pick up all his own toys when we clean the house and he even helps his daddy feed our family dog zues. We are hoping by giving him more responsibility and freedom will make him feel more like a big boy and less like the baby of the house anymore and also that we will trust him when it comes to helping his baby sister.

Our last change will be when she is born, the day after we will bring our son up to the hospital and just have it be the four of us, giving him that time to bond and Understand for himself this is his new baby sister because I know it will be hard for him to adjust he’s so used to my big old belly and he won’t understand why she’s out now. We also want lorenzo to be there with us the first few days as well all adjust as a family of three to a family of four, I don’t want to send Lorenzo off to daycare well he knows we are at home without him or send him to my parents I want lorenzo there for it all.

This brings me to the end, this is everything we have been doing in the Caesar household to make Lorenzo ready as best as we can for his new baby sister to arrive. If your a second time parent or third & fourth I would love to know how you guys transitioned your child for the new arrival and did it work? Or should I say what worked for your guys and what didn’t work for you guys?

The Caesar family ❌

Mental health

I became a mother almost two years ago, pregnancy wasn’t the dream I thought it would be, but hubby and I still were on cloud nine. We were so over joyed to be pregnant and also having a baby boy!

If your new here and haven’t had a chance to go throw all my old pregnancy blogs with my first born, than that’s ok because I’ll catch you up to speed right now. My first pregnancy was very much completed… My first trimester was easy in the sense of I didn’t get morning sickness and when I was sick it was for a week and then I was all good. But unfortunately when I was six weeks pregnant I began to have massive pains in my lower stomach, that’s when I was told I had ovarian cyst’s one of which was 30ml in size! Clearly not normal and something had to be done! In my second trimester very randomly and unexpected after work I began to become very sick, that night I threw up a cup of blood ” the only reason I know it was a cup, is the nurse’s could test how much blood loss.” I was rushed to hospital, Lorenzo’s heartbeat was no where to be found for at least an hour, to this day they can’t explain what was happening. Than in my third trimester when I was 30 weeks I began to leak fluids and started having false contractions every five minutes apart… Again rushed to hospital and they gave me something to stop them and I was told to be put on light duties.

So say my first pregnancy wasn’t normal is an understatement! This made me very on edge and than it only got worse when it was actually my time to give birth, again I have my whole birth story on my blog channel you should take the time to read it.

When you take in all those factors it’s a no brainer as to why I felt the way I did after I gave birth to my son… Lorenzo and I were stuck in a hospital for his first week of life as his blood sugar levels were so low they wouldn’t let him leave, I tried so hard to breast feed but unfortunately he had to pick his weight up so he was half formal fed and half breast fed from the first hour after birth.. with everything going on and just only being a new mother I felt more alone than ever. My first night my son was taken down to the ICU unit for testing and I unfortunately was stuck in my room childless, I thought to myself it’s ok it will be better when we are home and alone and not in this kind of invorment.

My mental health only seemed to become more and more out of control once we got home. I was full of anxiety! Scared something would happen to my son, scared to sleep because I would miss something or he was stop breathing, scared for anyone elses to hold him for too long before I had to have him in my arms again because something bad could happen, scared to let anyone help including hubby because he was my son and as a mother I was meant to have that bond with him which I didn’t feel. I was a ball of mess for at least the first month of his life. I got better, I found a routine and and found my grove again. Than I started work and slowly but surely I noticed I wasn’t better I had just got better at hiding it all.

I decided to get help and I began seeing someone, at first I found it not helpful and after each session I found myself to become more and more upset. But it wasn’t until the end of my sessions with “I’ll call her Mary” for the sake of privacy. It wasn’t until the end of my sessions with Mary that I could actually see that all those times I didn’t think the sessions helped me, or I would leave feeling more unstable or upset was actually my growth, I was finally letting out all my worries about being a mum, all my stress, all my anger towards my body for not handling pregnancy well, my anger towards the hospital I went too. I finally let go of all that I was holding onto on the inside and felt like myself again.

Mental health issues are becoming more and more common after child birth.

When I first became I new mum Instagram and any form of social media was my black hole, I used to see how these perfect mother’s were so carefree and having the time of their lives being a mother… I used to look at them and think to myself why can’t I be like that, why can’t I look that great just after giving birth. It took me months to really learn the truth and realise they only want you too see the good and sugar coat what motherhood is actually like. This is when I made my Instagram page ( thecaesarfamily ) and told my viewers that I’ll share the good, bad & in between. I’m that friend in real life that always has your back and speaks the truth and this also is the same for all my social medias.

Mental health isn’t something someone should feel embraced about, no new mother or anyone for that matter should be like they are the only ones going through it because 50% of the time you are not alone. I definitely think there should be way more of a support system for new mothers, I wish I was more informed in this area and was prepared for everything I may or may not face but at least I would of been prepared!

In hospital they have a breastfeeding class for new mothers but I think they also need to add a self help class, where mothers can sit and listen and be educated on how you might be feeling or how you will feel, ways to cope with your feelings and also understand it’s ok to have those feelings.

The Caesar family ❌⭕