Two months earth side

Our little woman is two months and I can’t deal. With Lorenzo I always thought the months went so slow and the newborn stage would never end and now I’m sad because the months just keep flying by and pretty soon she will be one and my baby days will officially be over for good.

Two months and this is how we are going.

I’ve definitely adjusted to being a mother of two and feel more balanced than what I was like the first month. Some days are hard and other days I’ve got all my ducks in a row and killing this whole motherhood gig.

We finally are having a bit of a routine in the Caesar household and now working with Elizabeth and her cues. The only thing I still need to work on is time for myself, finding time to have alone time is so important for me to stay a happy mum and not feel overwhelmed and at the moment trying to find five minutes to myself is still so hard but again this will take time and slowly come again. 

How breastfeeding is going?

Two months in and breastfeeding is finally feeling normal and natural for me. Elizabeth is doing well with her night feeding and has a big five hour break from her first feed to the next. She now feeds from

6:30-7pm she has her first feed.

7:30pm her and I go into the room and turn the lights off and close the door away from her loud brother. This is when I pat her and play soothing music in the background. 

She sleeps from 7:30pm-11pm.

Feeds until about 11:30pm or midnight then goes back down until 3:30am.

Her last feed is 5am then she’s back asleep until 7am.

So yes as you can see she does well at night with her feeds and this works for us.

Unfortunately I can’t say the same about her day feeds. If she could be feeding all day long she would be. But I’ve been pretty strict with her this past month and we are working on bigger breaks in-between her day feeds. I’m trying to get her into a every 3 hour feeding routine so I make sure I have written the time her feeds end and I will count from that time for when her next feed will be. 

My sleeping beauty

Elizabeth and sleep was a battle in the beginning but I’m happy to report she’s improved heaps this month. Last month she was only sleeping on me and hated her bed, this month she’s sleeping so well at night and in her own bed it’s amazing. Unfortunately we are still working on date naps in her own bed but again this will take time and it’s all about baby steps.

Six weeks check up.

Elizabeth had her six weeks check up and shots, we learned that she’s put on 2kgs but we also learnt she is tounge tied. Unfortunately this means she needs surgery to correct it. We booked this in for the 2nd of July and hopefully this will mean dummies and bottles as she hasn’t been able to take these two items and is very fussy most of the time.

Postpartum body update.

Two months from today I gave birth, I’ve been slowly working on my health & fitness. I’ve been on youfoodz since our one month update and have been keeping up with my fitness. Unfortunately I did have one bad week when my lady friend began for the first time since before pregnancy, I think that week I just craved sugars and soft drink and gave in. But I soon got on track.

How’s Lorenzo taking his big brother duties.

Lorenzo is such a good brother to his baby sister. When I was pregnant I’m going to be honest I really didn’t think he would be good but I was proven wrong by him. He is forever giving cuddles & kisses and is very protective to the point he will yell at you that she’s his baby girl.

Two month milestones

° Elizabeth can hold her own neck up for a few minutes by herself.

° smiles and giggles

° can focus objects and people around her.

° longer sleeps in-between feeds at night

° starting to get her baby talk on.

° Elizabeth has found her hands and feet.

Our first month as a family of four 🌷

It’s already been a month!? It feels like just last week I gave birth to our sweet baby girl.

As i sit here and write up this blog I have baby girl sleeping in my arms after a feed and my two year old eating breakfast well watching his morning kid shows. This month has been one big old blur with me trying to juggle being a mother of one to now a mother of two!? I still can’t believe how much my life has changed “again” in the space of a month.

So how has our first month been?

Our first month with Elizabeth has been a busy first month, I have struggled trying to adjust from being a mother of one too a mother of two, it’s this crazy feeling you just can’t explain until you become a parent of two.

You always see those parents with two children all over your social media’s looking like they have their sh*t togther and make it look so easy, well I’m sorry to say it’s all a lie. It’s so easy to share the great moments of parenting and not share the truths.

This for me was a struggle into parenting two kids, because I honesty felt like I was failing because over on my Instagram all I would see was how easy it was for other mothers and I was crying everyday and struggling to find time to have a shower and shave my legs.

But I’m happy to report after the first 3 weeks were over I began to feel like myself again, I started getting the hang of parenting a two year old who throws tantrums from time to time and a newborn who some days just wants to be on the boob all day long.

How is breastfeeding going?

If you haven’t had a read of my breastfeeding blog I did cover this whole topic. Breastfeeding with my two-year old just didn’t happen “which explained in detail over on that blog.” But because of my first experience I really didn’t think breastfeeding would happen the second time around and yet this time it happened so naturally and although it was hard work the first few weeks Elizabeth and I are both doing well on our breastfeeding journey together and I’m loving those extra moments between herself and I.

Too sleep or not to sleep.

Our first month with Elizabeth and sleep unfortunately hasn’t been a win for us. She does well with her day sleeps away from me, she will happily sleep in her bassist or swing but our night sleeps in the bassist have become non-existent. But if I have been honest I haven’t really been fighting her on this and have enjoyed our chest to chest sleeps, although she doesn’t do well sleeping in her own bed when she sleeps she’s pretty good. She now sleeps longer intervals during the night but she does have her “fussy” hour from 3:30am-4:30am. 

I have decided to buy a sleep help guid now that she’s a month old I do want to now focus on making her a routine something that will help me and help her, I also will be trying to get her to sleep in her bassist over the weekend well hubby is home and I can have that extra time and help. Lorenzo our first-born was also the same and we had to work with him to get him to sleep on his own, took us a few days and was long and hard but we got there and I know we can with Elizabeth as well. 

If the shoe fits?

I swear Lorenzo had out-grown all his new-born clothing by the time he was one month, just from being a super long baby. So again I don’t why I did this but when buying clothing for Elizabeth I didn’t spend much on newborn stuff and began buying for 0-3 months which turns out I’m still struggling to fit her in newborn outfits as some are still too big.

One month milestones.

• Elizabeth is already trying to hold her head & neck up on her own.

• Elizabeth can turn her head from side to side already

Only child no more?

When we first brought Elizabeth home Lorenzo was half and half about his feelings towards his new baby sister. Now we are month in and his love has grown but he still doesn’t understand. Lorenzo still is adjusting to having to wait for something he needs or wants because I’ll be busy breastfeeding or changing baby sister, but the way both hubby and I look at this is his learning that he doesn’t get everything he wants straight away anymore… now if only we could get him to share and all will be right in the Caesar household.

My postpartum body?

I’ve cut out some bad habits due to breastfeeding but I haven’t really forced or focused too much on healthy eating and working out, this first month has been crazy and it has been more about getting myself in the correct head space and adjusting too my new life with two kids.

But I would love to point out breastfeeding did help me lose a little bit of that tummy which was a nice little surprise.

But I can’t wait to keep you all updated on my postpartum journey, I’ve just did a massive food shop with youfoodz online and as gyms are still closed I’ve gone out and bought myself heaps of gym gear as well as buying Kayla Itsines “sweat app for my at home workouts.

This month has gone so fast and has come with some bad days mixed with the good days. I’ve loved becoming a mother or two and I’m thankful each and every day for two healthy children I can’t wait to see what the next 11 months have to offer.

Parent with us

As I sit here and start to write up this blog that’s been on my to do list for a while, I’m struggling to find a “catchy” title.. a title that brings in my followers and makes you want to read this blog. But all that comes into my mind is motherhood, this is motherhood this is how I parent my two year old.

Before I get into what this blog is actually about “even if your confused” it will all make sense very soon.i promise. I want to “sell” myself again I guess.. I’m a 26 year old women who is a mother to a little boy named Lorenzo Robert Caesar who is two and a very inderpent little boy who knows what he wants, I’m also a wife both my hunny and I have been together for seven years and we are far from perfect but we work well togther as a couple and a team when it comes to parenting. Our world is about to become a whole lot busyer as I’m currently 36 weeks pregnant with our baby girl. Oh and we have a very active dog named zues! And that’s how we became the “Caesar family.”

The Caesar family

When we firsted welcomes our son into this crazy thing we call life, our whole world changed the way we were as a couple and how we handled situations changed. Before hubby and I had children we really struggled with how we communicated with each other, a lot of it was me and bringing my past relationships into every situation which for better understanding, my relationship before hubby was with a guy who only saw me “so to speak” when we had fights and we had big fights. Our whole relationship “if you can even call it that.” Was just fighting every day it was a very toxic and unhappy environment which is all I’ll go into detail about. But with hubby I really took those unhealthy habits from my past and just couldn’t shake them from what was a amazing relationship, too the point a broke up with my hubby because he was too nice which it wasn’t until he was gone for me to see and realise he was everything I needed and more.

Our first year togther

When we used to have a fight it was always me who would just blow up straight away and it wasn’t until later on when I realised that was me just putting those walls up straight away and trying to protect myself.. hubby soon realised what I was doing and every time we had a fight or disagreement at the beginning of our relationship he would always try and reassure me that this was try a disagreement and we would work it out and be ok.

Fast forward a few years and now we are parents the way we have disagreements is completely different. When we first became parents we both really had to adjust and this of course meant learning how to parent togther which was hard at first, but two years later we finally have it togther “sometimes.” We sat down one night and spoke about everything and one thing we both could agree on what what we said in front of our children would have long lasting effects and that we didn’t want to put any negative impact on our children.

For us this means when we both disagree with each other at the time and are in front of anyone we just have this “look” I can’t explain the look but we just know each other’s looks and it’s like we make a sticky note about it in our heads and always bring it up when we are in privite rather air our laundry in front of our son or friends and family. This works well for us and trust me it took as a really long time to get to that place of we both sir down and let each other have our say rather just both thinking we are right and the other person is wrong.

I truly am a believer that once you and your partner have found each other’s “love language” and a way to communicate each other’s frustrations in positive ways, it shows in how you parent and work with each other then without.

But please don’t take this as I think we have work out and cracked parenting and our relationship and think we are perfect because trust me we probably do more “wrong” then “right” sometimes but I’m saying it works for us. This is our journey into parenthood and marriage and hubby and I have both have been very intentional with how we communicate and parent our children. We both look at our journey and where we have come from to where we are now and what/ how we want our children to see us and remember.

Our parenting style is simple we choose to do things togther, we put our family first. The way we couple is also simple we choose to always communicate togther and listen and not air our dirty laundry in front of ours but with each other.

When I say we parent togther I really do mean this. One thing we asked each other when we first gave birth to our son Lorenzo was “how do we want our children to grow.?” For us it was simple we both agreed that we wanted our children to always feel loved no matter what. We want out children to grow up remembering those little things such as the extra cuddles, extra time spent at the dinner tables being more internal with our children and always putting them first. For us this means we both tuck our son in at night, we both kiss him and say we love him, we both teach our son right from wrong, we both spend that one on one time with him.

When our sweet baby girl comes we both know we will have to change and adjust to a family of four but I believe we can and we will be just as successful with how we cope with whatever life gives us just as much as we already are now.

The Caesar family ♡

Nursery tour 🌷

I’ve had so much fun buying all things girly and pretty for our second little baby, I did enjoy doing the same for Lorenzo but not going to lie buying cute little headbands and outfits is all that little bit more special.

I’m happy with how her room turned out and can’t wait to see her in it.

Her nappy change table set up is pretty simple. In one basket I have nothing but singlets for under all her zip ups as she will be a winter baby. The other busket has lots of socks to keep her little toes nice and warm.

The baskets I was given by my sister when I was pregnant with Lorenzo so I unfortunately can’t write where they are from.

Change table is from target. Retail price $100

Behind the baskets I have some nice warm blankets. With also some sleep wraps for when she’s a newborn. Then I have a basket at the back which is filled with wipes, baby creams and shampoo and a baby bottle with her first packet of newborn nappies.

In the coner of her room we have the cot all set up for her but she won’t be sleeping in her own room until six months so we do have her pram nice and set up in front of it and out of the way. With her pink winter blanket.

Her cot again from target and the retail price is around $100 And $50 for mattress. The bedding & change mat are from my first pregnancy with my son so haven’t upgraded in those areas.

Her wardrobe tour ♡

Most of them are bonds as I love bonds

Her four white cube is from kmart Australia. Retail price $19 the little fake plant is $9 and the diffuser is $29 All kmart

Chair is kmart $69 And foot stool also kmart $29 And pillow is also kmart $5 the cow rug us from my son’s old room from kmart but can longer rember the price.

The cow high rug is again also kmart retail price $30

All up for the decor in baby girls room we spent about $190 on her room this is not adding in the cot or change table etc as we had already pre owned them from our first child so if you factor those items the total amount of of baby girls room is $390.

I think when it comes to styling your home the way you want to style it doesn’t have to coat you a arm and a leg and you can style a room on a budget as well. I love kmart because of this reason and I’m actually so happy with how her room has turned out and I can’t wait until she’s here to enjoy her room.

Hope you have enjoyed her little nursery tour.

What’s in my hospital bag for baby number two!

I remember my first pregnancy with my now two year old Lorenzo, I was put on bed rest due to issues with my body and I was told to be prepared so of course as a first time mother I packed his hospital bag I think before I was even 30 weeks pregnant… fast forward to now, two years later and my second pregnancy having Braxton hicks daily and yet didn’t start packing my hospital bag until I was 33 weeks pregnant oh how times have changed.

I’ll have that blog linked down below if your interested in seeing what I packed for baby number one compared to baby number two.

https://newmummyblogger94.blog/2017/12/19/whats-in-my-hospital-bag-%F0%9F%92%BC/amp/

I have two bags one for baby girl and one for me. First I’ll show you everything in baby girls hospital bag.

Her bag is from mimco

I’ve put all her outfits into little zip lock bags and easy to get too etc.

One thing I learnt from my first pregnancy is that having everything together and easy to reach when needed is the way too go. And sorry husbands but also just easier for the men who don’t understand that a crazy pregnant lady had already pre planned what outfits will look better together.

Ive packed four outfits for baby girl as I was told we would be in hospital for max a week but I really want to leave ealier then that if i can. Last time I packed nine and that was way too much! So again ive learnt a lot from my first time around and I think four outfits are are a good amount.

Each outfit has also been packed with a singlet and a pair of socks as we are heading into winter and it will be a chilly one.

Most of her outfits are from bonds as I’m in love with bonds.

I’ve even packed a few extra hats and mittens for her head and hands to stay warm.

When we went to our last hospital “we have chosen a different hospital, this time around.” We had so many different midwifes stay how to wrap up our baby and how we were doing it wrong.. again this is just the journey of learning as first time parents. This time around I’m not putting myself in that position again so we have packed a baby swaddle that is a zip up and easy to use and no need for worry about if she’s wrapped the correct way.

Our next little thing we packed is her name tag we had made for us for her arrival photo when we are in hospital. I can’t show you the front as it has her name but I can’t wait until she’s here to show you the front of it.

Our last two items for baby girls hospital bag are her nappies and wipes. I forgot how cute newborn nappies are.

Now that I’ve covered baby girls hospital bag I can finally show you mine.

First things first the pads… the postpartum life isn’t that sexy.

In the front pocket I have 3 nursering bras and a whole heaps of granny undies.

Lose fitted PJ top easy to lift up when breast feeding and comfy for the hospital and warm.

Comfy pj pants

Going home outfit. Comfy black pants and just a comfy top and again easy for breast feeding.

For my hospital stay I have two outfits as I’m sure I’ll just live in my PJs.. I have this lose fitted top that has buttons again easy for breast feeding.

With the lose fitted top I’ve paired it with my comfy pregnancy pants to hide my postpartum belly.

My second hospital stay outfit is just a oversized dress something comfy to just be around the hospital in.

Bathroom bag.

I’ve got a travel sized bathroom bag to pack into my hospital bag which I’ve just packed.

• hair brush

• toothbrush and toothpaste

• travel size shampoo

• dry shampoo in case I just don’t have time to wash my hair.

• make up bag

•body wash

• deorent

• breast feeding pads

• towel

• paw paw cream for dry skin

Extras that have been packed.

• phone charger

• camera

•phone

• wallet with my money and heath care cards etc. The important stuff.

That pretty much covers everything I need to pack for the hospital. Only one month left until baby girl is finally here

Our last pregnancy

I’m currently 27 weeks going into my 28th of my second pregnancy. We have been so blessed with our two year old son Lorenzo and even more blessed our second pregnancy is with our sweet baby girl. It’s so rare and so lucky for us to be blessed with one of each and for that I’m so thankful because my hubby already said if this one was a boy there would of been a third!? So I’m even more greatful it’s our sweet baby girl.

Baby E.A.C

This pregnancy has been so different to my pregnancy with my son that I think right from the start I knew it was a girl because of just how different it all was. In the next almost 12 weeks we will be welcoming our baby girl into this world and I’m going to be honest and say I’m so scared and extremely excited for this next chapter for the Caesar family.

Our family will be complete the four of us plus our family dog zues, we definitely think we are set and connent with a family of four so as I’m writing these words I’m getting a little emtional knowing this is definitely the end of my pregnancy journey.

In almost 12 weeks ” I say almost because we are not there yet.” I will push out a baby for the very last time, this is the last time I’ll feel baby kicks from the inside, nausea all hours of the day & night, last time I can freely use the “I’m pregnant card” with hubby and the very last time my body will look the way it does. And I’m a little emtional about this and I’m more emtional for the many women who are still trying to have what I’ve been blessed to have twice now, I know that pain, I know the hardship they are going through I’ve seen it first hand and I’ve been there and I still see it around me on a weekly basis. So yeah I’m emtional knowing I’m at the end of my journey and there are women out there still trying to just get to the beginning of theirs and I will continue to pray for all of these women and their rainbow.

But don’t hate me for what I’m about say… But I’m so relieved “my” journey is almost at the end. I would be lying if I sat here and said I’m enjoying every little bit of this pregnancy because the truth is the second pregnancy is so much more intense… With Lorenzo both hubby and I were on cloud nine the whole time even when we were in and out of hospital I was still over the moon about being pregnant. This time around I’m running after a two year old, trying to balance working full time with fiftheen children a day, trying to love myself and take care of myself as well as my family. I’m run down, tired, in pain and just trying to keep a float some days. I’ve cried a lot this pregnancy to my family saying “how am I meant to do this?” Am I going to mother two children? Will I cope how will I cope, can I still work full-time with two children? Or should I start dealing with the fact I need to go part time.?

But she is worth it all just like Lorenzo was. I’ll miss all these things the good & bad and I know I will even though right now I can’t wait for the bad to end I’ll miss it a few years down the track when she’s starting kindergarten for the first time I’ll look back on being pregnant with her and try and remember it all but I’ll be so thankful for these blogs that I get to re-live this very moment I’m talking about. I still find myself reading Lorenzo’s birth blog and it’s a nice reminder of how hard I worked just to have him here with us and now he’s two.

We know our lives are going to become way more busy and hard but we wouldn’t of had it any other way, we always knew we would have two, we knew we wanted them close in age and we knew we wanted a two year age gap and this is what we got. We survived the newborn stage with Lorenzo we can do it all over again and be a boss! We know what we are doing and we know what we want for our family we are just ticking more goals off our family list.

So I’m going to enjoy these last 12 weeks I’m going to try and enjoy every little bit of this pregnancy and soak it all in for this is our last and I know I’ll miss it in a few years.

The Caesar family ❌

My own fears about breastfeeding baby no.2

If you’ve been following my blog since my son’s birth two years ago then you might remember my breast feeding journey with him. If your new to my blog let me give you the short version and try and link my breastfeeding blog for you too go back on and have a read if you like.

http://breastfeeding struggles

But to break it down for you guys. Lorenzo birth was a very interesting… They called my birth a “brow birth.” This is

But because of this his heart rate dropped and he got scared as he got stuck… So when he first was born he was actually taken away from me for heaps of testing this is when they found out his sugar levels were below 2.6 and because my breast milk didn’t come in until day five which was too late he needed to be formula fed straight away to get his sugar levels up and for us to be given the ok to leave the hospital.

And this is where my fears for baby girl come in and my breastfeeding journey with her. We also didn’t find out until Lorenzo was probably about five months old that he was also dairy intorlant so of course when I did try to breast feed he wasn’t having a bar of it because he was getting really bad colic because of this…

Now that Lorenzo is two we just had his check up with his doctor and he’s now been confirmed dairy intorlant and that baby girl will most likely be the same as it runs in the family on his dad’s side. I’m so glad we have been given the heads up it means I get this time to prepare myself unlike last time. And also gives me a time to make a plan.

I would be lying if I said I don’t mind not breastfeeding as I really want to have this experience with at least one of my kids. But I also know that a fed baby is a happy baby no matter how they get their milk supply from. But yes I’m going to try my best to breast feed baby girl.

After doing some research, I’ve found many conflicting stories and people say something different every time.

This is what Lorenzo had.

After lots of reading and based on all the articles I’ve had a read of if I change my diet and not only eat healthier and cut out dairy I will still be able to breastfeed.

But this is where all my questions come into play and maybe I need to look into a breastfeeding consolent.

• do I begin cutting out dairy now that I’m going into my third trimester?

• should I cut out dairy or should I still be adding in these types of fats?

• will I be able to do this?

So many questions!? But this is where I’ll leave the blog on this topic as I have decided to see someone for some support and extra help which I will write a new blog all about.

The Caesar family ❌

A night routine with my two year old

Welcome to our night routine with our two year old. I haven’t done a update night routine with our toddler for a while and I thought this long weekend we have been blessed with would be the perfect time.

Our night routine starts at around 4:30pm. Lorenzo has had his play outside and now we are having some inside time. This usually is when we allow lorenzo to have tv time. We are not those parents that have set times he can have screen time because he’s a pretty well balanced kid who loves being outside.

Tonight he’s chosen fire man Sam and some toy review on fire man Sam.

5pm – that’s when I begin cooking dinner, tonight was kind of a lazy mum meal as it’s been a long weekend and it’s our “sunday routine” on a Monday due to the public holiday.

Well dinner is on and cooking I usually put on a load of washing with heaps on Lorenzo’s clothes to prepare for the week of daycare and his spare sheets for rest time.

5:30pm- dinner is ready, every night we sit as a family at the dinner table.

5:50pm – dinner is done, dishes are clean and the kitchen is closed for the night.

6pm- bathtime for Lorenzo, when Lorenzo has a bath this is usually when I jump in the shower at the same time and we both get ready for bed.

I think I’ll do a seperate blog about my beauty routine, so stay tuned for that.

6:30pm – this is usually are unwinding time so Lorenzo has free play with his toys or again tv time and we’ll they are busy I’m doing the mum routine and getting everything ready for the morning as I start at 8am so we usually leave the house early.

I begin with packing his daycare bag. He just got a new “hot wheels” backpack for his second birthday. And mum also is happy as it’s a lot bigger in space and more room.

Whats in Lorenzo’s daycare bag.

• fitted sheet for rest time with his blanket.

• Thomas the tank engine bucket hat.

• lots of spare clothes as he loves water play and getting messy.

After his backpack is packed and ready waiting for the morning ahead. My next task is too transfer the washing from our washing machine to our dryer and then tonight we had one more load which is both hubby and our work clothes also getting washed for the week ahead.

6:45pm – now it’s time to get Lorenzos room ready for bed, I go into his room and close his window and blinds and make his bed by placing his sleep toys on his bed. He enjoys sleeping with his chase, Marshall and we have Ollie the owl for him. If you don’t know what Ollie the owl is I have done a blog review on this product Lorenzo has been using this since birth. It’s a owl that has four different sleep sounds with a night light, Ollie the owl is programmed to play when your child cries or begins to toss and turn, he plays for 30 minutes each time and it keeps your child settled and have a good rest at night. Lorenzo sleeps with calming sleep music in his daycare room as it’s played in all rooms so for the moment we have no desire to get rid of Ollie the owl.

I also filled up his water cup with water. We no longer am on rice milk to sleep but we found he still liked the comfort of a Sippy cup in bed at night so it’s just filled with water for when he needs some.

Once the chores are done for me I finally get to enjoy some family time with hubby and Lorenzo.

6:50pm – story book time. Tonight was his dinosaur book that he got for his second birthday, he loves dinosaurs at the moment.

7pm- Lorenzo’s bed time. We clean his room because he likes to throw his books out of his bookself and we tuck him in and both kiss him good night and tuck him in. And we walk out and he goes to sleep on his own.

Once Lorenzo is asleep which some nights he fights it and others he doesn’t im usually already in my PJs as I do my shower routine when he’s in the bath as it’s just easy for us and works. So by 8pm until whenever I chose to go to bed which most nights is around 9:30pm as he does wake at 6am on the dot every morning. This is usually my free time on the couch watching my shows or I’ll already be in bed watching Netflix and fall asleep.

But this pretty much sums up a normal week night routine for the Caesar household. Hope you enjoyed that little insight into our home.

The Caesar family ❌

How we are preparing our toddler for our new arrival

Welcoming a new baby into the family is something you can’t just expect a child to wake up one day and Understand. I’ve been a educator for nine years and I’ve seen many families welcome in new babies into their families and first hand how these children have reacted.

When it comes to my own son I’ve been honest with him right from the start about our pregnancy so he’s been made aware from day one to now. We are 13 weeks away from welcoming his new baby sister and here’s what we have been doing to make him prepared and not surprised by her arrival.

Our first big thing is Lorenzo has been 100% involved in this journey just as much as both hubby & I have. When we told him we showed him where babies come from and yes you may think how would a two year old even understand, it’s not about him understanding it’s more having him build and get used to the idea someone will be joining in his comfort circle. He’s come to a hospital appointment with me and I’ve made him aware of the hospital, I’ve shown and spoken about all my scans. When we knew it was a baby girl we have never not called her baby girl as baby girl and once we knew her name we have also been calling her name when he’s around.

The second thing we have been doing is not hiding watching baby videos and letting him see a new born baby cry, we have been playing old baby videos of himself. There’s one thing knowing what a baby is but also understanding that the real thing isn’t like a doll and you can’t just throw it on the floor when your bored. We have made him aware but having him there when we moved his old crib into her soon to be room and talking not him about how it’s her bed now and that he has his big brother bed for his big brother room.

Our third thing that has changed is we are trying to have some “special” time with Lorenzo before our baby girls arrival. I’ve seen the effects of what new babies bring to the other child and we understand Lorenzo will take a while to adjust as it’s a completely new thing. I know that when our girl is here for the first few weeks my time will be divided big time! And most of that time will be with her and I myself am a little sad about this as I don’t ever want Lorenzo to feel left out or un-loved by me any less, so yes these past few weeks Lorenzo has been getting one on one time a lot with his mummy. Making special memories with him and making sure he know no matter what he is always baby boy and a new baby doesn’t mean I don’t love him any less.

Our fourth thing we did but was kind of our first is we looked for children books all about babies and becoming a big brother, every night we read a story as a family so we made sure some nights a week “not every night” because he would get sick of it. But most nights he reads all about being a big brother and all the things he can help with, then we discuss this as a family for example we have asked if he will help mummy feed his baby sister, or brush her hair etc.

Our fifth change is giving Lorenzo more responsibility, as he will be a big brother we have tried to make him start doing little things for himself as he’s a “big boy” now. After dinner he now throws his bowl or plate into the kitchen sink, he also opens the fridge and gets his own juice out ” we have filled a bottle of water” something easy for him to carry to us and we make him put it back himself. He helps pick up all his own toys when we clean the house and he even helps his daddy feed our family dog zues. We are hoping by giving him more responsibility and freedom will make him feel more like a big boy and less like the baby of the house anymore and also that we will trust him when it comes to helping his baby sister.

Our last change will be when she is born, the day after we will bring our son up to the hospital and just have it be the four of us, giving him that time to bond and Understand for himself this is his new baby sister because I know it will be hard for him to adjust he’s so used to my big old belly and he won’t understand why she’s out now. We also want lorenzo to be there with us the first few days as well all adjust as a family of three to a family of four, I don’t want to send Lorenzo off to daycare well he knows we are at home without him or send him to my parents I want lorenzo there for it all.

This brings me to the end, this is everything we have been doing in the Caesar household to make Lorenzo ready as best as we can for his new baby sister to arrive. If your a second time parent or third & fourth I would love to know how you guys transitioned your child for the new arrival and did it work? Or should I say what worked for your guys and what didn’t work for you guys?

The Caesar family ❌

Lorenzo is two!

I’ve been doing updates on Lorenzo since I was pregnant with him and I’ve updated on his one year update and now I can’t believe it’s time for his two year update!?

It’s so crazy to think back to the very beginning and how it’s been two years being his mother.

Baby Lorenzo

These past two years have gone by so fast and I’m loving watching him grow up.

His likes:

• he is very much an outside boy.

• water play is his favourite kind of play.

• loves to get messy and I think I’m bathing him sometimes twice a day.

• fire man Sam is his favourite show at the moment which it used to be paw patrol but he’s slowly getting bored of this show.

• loves buses, trains, plains, trucks & police cars.

• likes painting and puzzles

Dislikes:

• veggies – yes I already have a picky eater and if he sees any he won’t touch so I usually have to hide them.

• sharing his toys ” we still are learning.”

• hights

• loud sounds do freak him out and he even calls our vacuum a dinosaur.

Lorenzos favourite food:

• pasta he likes plain pasta

• rice

• fish

• banana

• blueberries

• roast veggies is probably the only kind he will eat.

Milestones:

Social ~

• copies others with actions & words

• shows excitement when around others

• independent

• difent behaviour ” very much”

• interactions with other children.

Verbal:

• can point and let someone know what he wants

• can say up to seven names, objects, body parts.

• follows instructions

• can say words together ( still working on full sentence)

• repeats words

Problem solving:

• enjoys puzzles and can spend more than five minutes doing so.

• can hide a object and remember where he placed it even the next day.

• enjoys building blocks and also knocking them down.

Gross motor:

• kicks a ball

• runs

• climbs

• can walk up and down stairs on his own.

• throws a ball over his head

• can draw

Two years ago I became a mother, being Lorenzo’s mother has been the best two years of my life. Lorenzo has become my best friend and my son, I got so lucky having him in our lives daddy and mummy love you very much our boy.

My favourite part of the day is also bed time and no not because I’m putting him to bed but because of the bond and routine we have made with Lorenzo. Every night putting our son to bed it’s always hubby and I together, we tuck him in and read a book as a family, we both kiss him to bed and say I love you to the end of time and leave him to sleep. Those little moments are my favourite and the moments hell remember forever.

Lorenzo Robert Caesar we love you too the moon and back 💞