Two months earth side

Our little woman is two months and I can’t deal. With Lorenzo I always thought the months went so slow and the newborn stage would never end and now I’m sad because the months just keep flying by and pretty soon she will be one and my baby days will officially be over for good.

Two months and this is how we are going.

I’ve definitely adjusted to being a mother of two and feel more balanced than what I was like the first month. Some days are hard and other days I’ve got all my ducks in a row and killing this whole motherhood gig.

We finally are having a bit of a routine in the Caesar household and now working with Elizabeth and her cues. The only thing I still need to work on is time for myself, finding time to have alone time is so important for me to stay a happy mum and not feel overwhelmed and at the moment trying to find five minutes to myself is still so hard but again this will take time and slowly come again. 

How breastfeeding is going?

Two months in and breastfeeding is finally feeling normal and natural for me. Elizabeth is doing well with her night feeding and has a big five hour break from her first feed to the next. She now feeds from

6:30-7pm she has her first feed.

7:30pm her and I go into the room and turn the lights off and close the door away from her loud brother. This is when I pat her and play soothing music in the background. 

She sleeps from 7:30pm-11pm.

Feeds until about 11:30pm or midnight then goes back down until 3:30am.

Her last feed is 5am then she’s back asleep until 7am.

So yes as you can see she does well at night with her feeds and this works for us.

Unfortunately I can’t say the same about her day feeds. If she could be feeding all day long she would be. But I’ve been pretty strict with her this past month and we are working on bigger breaks in-between her day feeds. I’m trying to get her into a every 3 hour feeding routine so I make sure I have written the time her feeds end and I will count from that time for when her next feed will be. 

My sleeping beauty

Elizabeth and sleep was a battle in the beginning but I’m happy to report she’s improved heaps this month. Last month she was only sleeping on me and hated her bed, this month she’s sleeping so well at night and in her own bed it’s amazing. Unfortunately we are still working on date naps in her own bed but again this will take time and it’s all about baby steps.

Six weeks check up.

Elizabeth had her six weeks check up and shots, we learned that she’s put on 2kgs but we also learnt she is tounge tied. Unfortunately this means she needs surgery to correct it. We booked this in for the 2nd of July and hopefully this will mean dummies and bottles as she hasn’t been able to take these two items and is very fussy most of the time.

Postpartum body update.

Two months from today I gave birth, I’ve been slowly working on my health & fitness. I’ve been on youfoodz since our one month update and have been keeping up with my fitness. Unfortunately I did have one bad week when my lady friend began for the first time since before pregnancy, I think that week I just craved sugars and soft drink and gave in. But I soon got on track.

How’s Lorenzo taking his big brother duties.

Lorenzo is such a good brother to his baby sister. When I was pregnant I’m going to be honest I really didn’t think he would be good but I was proven wrong by him. He is forever giving cuddles & kisses and is very protective to the point he will yell at you that she’s his baby girl.

Two month milestones

° Elizabeth can hold her own neck up for a few minutes by herself.

° smiles and giggles

° can focus objects and people around her.

° longer sleeps in-between feeds at night

° starting to get her baby talk on.

° Elizabeth has found her hands and feet.

Our first week as a family of four.

Can’t believe our baby girl is already a week old, I can’t believe a week ago I was leaving the hospital and taking our fresh baby home to meet her big brother.

So much has happened this week I don’t even know where to begin so I’ve decided to break this up into three parts.

How mumma bear is coping?

This one is a hard one for me to answer right now as I don’t really know how I’m feeling.. some days I’m on top of the world and got the hang of parenting two children and other days I’m a bag full of miss matched emotions… not going to like no one really prepares you for the going home stage, the stage where you now have a two year old and a newborn and your on your own no help from midwifes or doctors and that shit is scary. My first night home I think I just cried & cried… actually i think most of week one was spent crying.

Of course when I fell pregnant we didn’t have this whole #COVID 19 stuff to deal with… now that we do here’s where my world is at, I have a two year old at home with me 24/7 plus a newborn all well the hubby is still working full time, our rules are slowly changing and we can now leave the house to go for walks or a drive etc.. So this will help me out big time in the next coming weeks but still in a normal world my busy toddler would be going to daycare but instead I’m planning activities, trying to keep the house a float, breastfeed a newborn and try and shower and find time for myself.. So yes i think my emotions are semi normal.

Breastfeeding journey.

I might get a lot of heat for saying this, but I don’t enjoy breastfeeding well at least for the moment I don’t find it enjoyable at all… women who say it comes naturally and you just pick up the cues etc…. please tell me what I’m doing wrong because she spends half her nights on my boob and not wanting to sleep or be more them 2cm away from myself or my boobs.. my boobs are sore, it doesn’t feel natural to me and I honestly don’t know how much longer I will continue breastfeeding for.. I’m trying to see if my body and baby girl togther if we naturally get the hang of it soon as yes I know it’s only been a week, but I’m doing this for her not me, if it was up to just myself I would be formula feeding her already as I think fed is best no matter how our children are fed. But she loves my boobs and this bonding time togther so I continue for her happiness &wellbeing.

How my toddler is coping with change.

There’s so much changing in my little man’s life right now it scares me, he’s no longer at daycare and around his friends and teachers a environment he’s been raised in since he was five months old, and for how long we are at home togther is still so unclear and the unknown scares me just as much as I’m sure it scares him, plus we have the added new family member that any child gets a little funny when a new sibling is added into into the mix, so yes I would say Lorenzo is coping but only by how he knows how. I’m trying to balance my time and spend one on one time with Lorenzo as much as I can right now and make sure he still feels loved and not left out but it is hard. I’ve bought a whole heap of craft activities to keep us both busy at home togther.

But I will say he does have his moment, his sweet moments of kisses and cuddles and wanting to hold his “baby” so I know he will soon come around and life will feel normal for him soon.

I’m hoping the weeks begin to ease, things begin to settle and life becomes some what normal.. which I know normal will never be the same again but a normal routine would be nice.

Parent with us

As I sit here and start to write up this blog that’s been on my to do list for a while, I’m struggling to find a “catchy” title.. a title that brings in my followers and makes you want to read this blog. But all that comes into my mind is motherhood, this is motherhood this is how I parent my two year old.

Before I get into what this blog is actually about “even if your confused” it will all make sense very soon.i promise. I want to “sell” myself again I guess.. I’m a 26 year old women who is a mother to a little boy named Lorenzo Robert Caesar who is two and a very inderpent little boy who knows what he wants, I’m also a wife both my hunny and I have been together for seven years and we are far from perfect but we work well togther as a couple and a team when it comes to parenting. Our world is about to become a whole lot busyer as I’m currently 36 weeks pregnant with our baby girl. Oh and we have a very active dog named zues! And that’s how we became the “Caesar family.”

The Caesar family

When we firsted welcomes our son into this crazy thing we call life, our whole world changed the way we were as a couple and how we handled situations changed. Before hubby and I had children we really struggled with how we communicated with each other, a lot of it was me and bringing my past relationships into every situation which for better understanding, my relationship before hubby was with a guy who only saw me “so to speak” when we had fights and we had big fights. Our whole relationship “if you can even call it that.” Was just fighting every day it was a very toxic and unhappy environment which is all I’ll go into detail about. But with hubby I really took those unhealthy habits from my past and just couldn’t shake them from what was a amazing relationship, too the point a broke up with my hubby because he was too nice which it wasn’t until he was gone for me to see and realise he was everything I needed and more.

Our first year togther

When we used to have a fight it was always me who would just blow up straight away and it wasn’t until later on when I realised that was me just putting those walls up straight away and trying to protect myself.. hubby soon realised what I was doing and every time we had a fight or disagreement at the beginning of our relationship he would always try and reassure me that this was try a disagreement and we would work it out and be ok.

Fast forward a few years and now we are parents the way we have disagreements is completely different. When we first became parents we both really had to adjust and this of course meant learning how to parent togther which was hard at first, but two years later we finally have it togther “sometimes.” We sat down one night and spoke about everything and one thing we both could agree on what what we said in front of our children would have long lasting effects and that we didn’t want to put any negative impact on our children.

For us this means when we both disagree with each other at the time and are in front of anyone we just have this “look” I can’t explain the look but we just know each other’s looks and it’s like we make a sticky note about it in our heads and always bring it up when we are in privite rather air our laundry in front of our son or friends and family. This works well for us and trust me it took as a really long time to get to that place of we both sir down and let each other have our say rather just both thinking we are right and the other person is wrong.

I truly am a believer that once you and your partner have found each other’s “love language” and a way to communicate each other’s frustrations in positive ways, it shows in how you parent and work with each other then without.

But please don’t take this as I think we have work out and cracked parenting and our relationship and think we are perfect because trust me we probably do more “wrong” then “right” sometimes but I’m saying it works for us. This is our journey into parenthood and marriage and hubby and I have both have been very intentional with how we communicate and parent our children. We both look at our journey and where we have come from to where we are now and what/ how we want our children to see us and remember.

Our parenting style is simple we choose to do things togther, we put our family first. The way we couple is also simple we choose to always communicate togther and listen and not air our dirty laundry in front of ours but with each other.

When I say we parent togther I really do mean this. One thing we asked each other when we first gave birth to our son Lorenzo was “how do we want our children to grow.?” For us it was simple we both agreed that we wanted our children to always feel loved no matter what. We want out children to grow up remembering those little things such as the extra cuddles, extra time spent at the dinner tables being more internal with our children and always putting them first. For us this means we both tuck our son in at night, we both kiss him and say we love him, we both teach our son right from wrong, we both spend that one on one time with him.

When our sweet baby girl comes we both know we will have to change and adjust to a family of four but I believe we can and we will be just as successful with how we cope with whatever life gives us just as much as we already are now.

The Caesar family ♡

36 weeks pregnant with only 4 weeks to go

I did it, I made it to 36 weeks and I’m still going. This week has been so physically hard on my body and I can slowly feel myself shutting down so I know this is my body trying to tell me I’m done. This week was my first week not working and being on leave which felt weird but also nice at the same time, I did have pre plans for this time before baby girl makes her arrival into the world, I really wanted to enjoy my alone time with no hubby and having our two year old still in daycare. But the world has other plans for me right now and the big main one is doing my part and staying home and keeping this baby happy and healthy.

Hubby is still working which is good for right now as so many people are losing their jobs in Australia right now and we both decided to keep our son in daycare and keeping up with his normal routine as much as possible. I know a lot of parents will read this and not understand but I am not only a mother I too am a childcare educator, the centre that my son Lorenzo attends is the same place I work at and have worked at for the past five years. All the educators are bleaching toys and furniture daily and I know this for a fact as just last week I was one of them. all children from other age groups and rooms have been keeping their distance and all measurements have been put into place to continue a healthy environment. Not only am I 100% happy with how clean all the teachers are keeping the place, I know that childcare educators are at risk of losing their jobs for every child that is kept home or un-enrolling is one job taken from a childcare educator who has their own family to think about, Lorenzo will still be attending until our baby girl is born, hubby and I have spoken about once she is born we will keep him home for a while “we still are trying to work this out.” then re-send him when we know she is healthy and safe.

This weeks pregnant systems.

• reflux which has pretty much been a weekly update since hitting my third trimester.

• constipation but also at the same time normal bowel movements.. I know TMI

• heaps of movement from baby girl she’s deffiently running out of room.

• massive feeling like I need to push from my bum, lots of pressure in that area I think she must be very low.

Bump update.

Had a OB check up this week, baby girl is head down still and very active and moving around which is good. My blood pressure was a little low for the OB and he did check it twice and it didn’t pick up and then the next day my mother “who used to be a midwife.” checked it herself and it was still low, so I’m trying to keep my water levels up as I think it’s because I’ve been slack and not drinking heaps of water as I should be.

Baby girls heart rate was good, the blood flow etc was good. was sent for a blood test which I’ll get the results back on Monday when I see my OB as we are now at weekly check ups until she arrives into this world.

I can’t wait to see what week 37 brings to the table or if she comes next week or not.

The Caesar Family.

We made it 30 weeks!

Oh what a week… and I thought 29 weeks was hard on me, turns out 30 weeks won that fight.

My week started off a little different, I was graced with some light spotting and blood but it only lasted a day and never returned. I was booked in for a scan and went and saw baby girl straight after the bleeding only to find out she was fine and my wall is still closed, they can’t figure out why I had bleeding and baby girl is perfectly healthy and comfortable. On the bright side i did get to see her and I also am booked in next week to see her as well.

Baby girls foot.

This week’s pregnant systems.

• pink blood “lasted a day.”

• on and off sleep

• super tired durning the day and have begun napping on my lunch break. But tossing and turning and broken sleep at night.

• reflux

• cramping and pains in lower stomach

• leg cramps at night

• dizzy

• very active baby girl moves a lot and I feel her every day.

• after a long day on my feet I notice they get chubby

How I’m feeling.

This week was hard I found myself had way more breakdowns and I’m honesty just ready for her to come out now. I’ve enjoyed this pregnancy but it’s been super hard on my body the second time around and I’m taking it day by day at the moment. I hope she comes early or on time because I definitely don’t think I can make it past 40 weeks.

I’ve made a to-do list of things I need time I within the next coming weeks. For example I really should begin packing my hospital bag which is on my to do list this weekend. Also her room is not even ready yet so I’m adding that to my list.

Can’t wait to see what 31 weeks of pregnancy brings to the table. Hopefully it’s a little better then this week.

The Caesar family ♡

27 weeks down 13 left to go!

This week started with me on bed rest and has ended in information overload….

End of 26 weeks start of 27 weeks I began cramping in my lower front belly which wouldn’t be weird if also baby girl wasn’t the most active when cramping that’s she’s ever been. And I’m not talking just mild cramping I’m talking really bad period can’t walk it hurts cramping..

I clearly got a check up straight away and was put on bed rest for two days which definitely made things calm down. Which brings me into 27 weeks I already had a OB appointment booked for the Tuesday and I sat down with my ob and went over everything with him, turns out I got a taste of Braxton Hick contractions which isn’t that un-normal as I’ve had two pregnancy close together (two years) and because of my line of job ( educator) which is a high stressful environment.

After our chat we finally got to the scan and we soon learnt why I also might be in so much pain towards my lower belly, she likes to be head down. So in easy terms her head is pressing down on my lady bits and I’m over it!

The only bad thing about her head being so low down is when we tried to get a nice 3D picture all we could see was her ear… I was upset about this but then I soon learnt from now onwards I will be seeing my OB every two weeks until she is born as I’m close to the end!!!

Pregnancy symptoms this week:

• bad cramping and discomfort

• round ligament pains

• starting to get water weight around my face and looking a little puffy and swollen.

Pretty good week other than the Braxton Hick scare. Which it’s been a nice change.

Engery levels:

Well my two year old got sick over the long Australia Day weekend and with that meant his sleep patterns were pretty much thrown out the window as we’re mine. But surprisingly my body has been able to handle it and the only day I felt really tired and exhausted was when my body clock woke me from 1am-3am and I ended up watching tv.

Bump update.

According to my app:

She is the size of a cabbage….

And she’s only meant to 38cm and 0.98kgs well after my scan I can safely say she’s about 1kg already and that’s a big baby.

How I’m feeling:

Definitely beginning to feel run down and just trying to keep going is my main goal, walking has slowed down and I’m walking more and more like a penguin… I take it week by week at the moment.

Can’t wait to see what 28 weeks of pregnancy has in the works for me and finally in the home yard and third trimester!

Our last pregnancy

I’m currently 27 weeks going into my 28th of my second pregnancy. We have been so blessed with our two year old son Lorenzo and even more blessed our second pregnancy is with our sweet baby girl. It’s so rare and so lucky for us to be blessed with one of each and for that I’m so thankful because my hubby already said if this one was a boy there would of been a third!? So I’m even more greatful it’s our sweet baby girl.

Baby E.A.C

This pregnancy has been so different to my pregnancy with my son that I think right from the start I knew it was a girl because of just how different it all was. In the next almost 12 weeks we will be welcoming our baby girl into this world and I’m going to be honest and say I’m so scared and extremely excited for this next chapter for the Caesar family.

Our family will be complete the four of us plus our family dog zues, we definitely think we are set and connent with a family of four so as I’m writing these words I’m getting a little emtional knowing this is definitely the end of my pregnancy journey.

In almost 12 weeks ” I say almost because we are not there yet.” I will push out a baby for the very last time, this is the last time I’ll feel baby kicks from the inside, nausea all hours of the day & night, last time I can freely use the “I’m pregnant card” with hubby and the very last time my body will look the way it does. And I’m a little emtional about this and I’m more emtional for the many women who are still trying to have what I’ve been blessed to have twice now, I know that pain, I know the hardship they are going through I’ve seen it first hand and I’ve been there and I still see it around me on a weekly basis. So yeah I’m emtional knowing I’m at the end of my journey and there are women out there still trying to just get to the beginning of theirs and I will continue to pray for all of these women and their rainbow.

But don’t hate me for what I’m about say… But I’m so relieved “my” journey is almost at the end. I would be lying if I sat here and said I’m enjoying every little bit of this pregnancy because the truth is the second pregnancy is so much more intense… With Lorenzo both hubby and I were on cloud nine the whole time even when we were in and out of hospital I was still over the moon about being pregnant. This time around I’m running after a two year old, trying to balance working full time with fiftheen children a day, trying to love myself and take care of myself as well as my family. I’m run down, tired, in pain and just trying to keep a float some days. I’ve cried a lot this pregnancy to my family saying “how am I meant to do this?” Am I going to mother two children? Will I cope how will I cope, can I still work full-time with two children? Or should I start dealing with the fact I need to go part time.?

But she is worth it all just like Lorenzo was. I’ll miss all these things the good & bad and I know I will even though right now I can’t wait for the bad to end I’ll miss it a few years down the track when she’s starting kindergarten for the first time I’ll look back on being pregnant with her and try and remember it all but I’ll be so thankful for these blogs that I get to re-live this very moment I’m talking about. I still find myself reading Lorenzo’s birth blog and it’s a nice reminder of how hard I worked just to have him here with us and now he’s two.

We know our lives are going to become way more busy and hard but we wouldn’t of had it any other way, we always knew we would have two, we knew we wanted them close in age and we knew we wanted a two year age gap and this is what we got. We survived the newborn stage with Lorenzo we can do it all over again and be a boss! We know what we are doing and we know what we want for our family we are just ticking more goals off our family list.

So I’m going to enjoy these last 12 weeks I’m going to try and enjoy every little bit of this pregnancy and soak it all in for this is our last and I know I’ll miss it in a few years.

The Caesar family ❌

My own fears about breastfeeding baby no.2

If you’ve been following my blog since my son’s birth two years ago then you might remember my breast feeding journey with him. If your new to my blog let me give you the short version and try and link my breastfeeding blog for you too go back on and have a read if you like.

http://breastfeeding struggles

But to break it down for you guys. Lorenzo birth was a very interesting… They called my birth a “brow birth.” This is

But because of this his heart rate dropped and he got scared as he got stuck… So when he first was born he was actually taken away from me for heaps of testing this is when they found out his sugar levels were below 2.6 and because my breast milk didn’t come in until day five which was too late he needed to be formula fed straight away to get his sugar levels up and for us to be given the ok to leave the hospital.

And this is where my fears for baby girl come in and my breastfeeding journey with her. We also didn’t find out until Lorenzo was probably about five months old that he was also dairy intorlant so of course when I did try to breast feed he wasn’t having a bar of it because he was getting really bad colic because of this…

Now that Lorenzo is two we just had his check up with his doctor and he’s now been confirmed dairy intorlant and that baby girl will most likely be the same as it runs in the family on his dad’s side. I’m so glad we have been given the heads up it means I get this time to prepare myself unlike last time. And also gives me a time to make a plan.

I would be lying if I said I don’t mind not breastfeeding as I really want to have this experience with at least one of my kids. But I also know that a fed baby is a happy baby no matter how they get their milk supply from. But yes I’m going to try my best to breast feed baby girl.

After doing some research, I’ve found many conflicting stories and people say something different every time.

This is what Lorenzo had.

After lots of reading and based on all the articles I’ve had a read of if I change my diet and not only eat healthier and cut out dairy I will still be able to breastfeed.

But this is where all my questions come into play and maybe I need to look into a breastfeeding consolent.

• do I begin cutting out dairy now that I’m going into my third trimester?

• should I cut out dairy or should I still be adding in these types of fats?

• will I be able to do this?

So many questions!? But this is where I’ll leave the blog on this topic as I have decided to see someone for some support and extra help which I will write a new blog all about.

The Caesar family ❌

A night routine with my two year old

Welcome to our night routine with our two year old. I haven’t done a update night routine with our toddler for a while and I thought this long weekend we have been blessed with would be the perfect time.

Our night routine starts at around 4:30pm. Lorenzo has had his play outside and now we are having some inside time. This usually is when we allow lorenzo to have tv time. We are not those parents that have set times he can have screen time because he’s a pretty well balanced kid who loves being outside.

Tonight he’s chosen fire man Sam and some toy review on fire man Sam.

5pm – that’s when I begin cooking dinner, tonight was kind of a lazy mum meal as it’s been a long weekend and it’s our “sunday routine” on a Monday due to the public holiday.

Well dinner is on and cooking I usually put on a load of washing with heaps on Lorenzo’s clothes to prepare for the week of daycare and his spare sheets for rest time.

5:30pm- dinner is ready, every night we sit as a family at the dinner table.

5:50pm – dinner is done, dishes are clean and the kitchen is closed for the night.

6pm- bathtime for Lorenzo, when Lorenzo has a bath this is usually when I jump in the shower at the same time and we both get ready for bed.

I think I’ll do a seperate blog about my beauty routine, so stay tuned for that.

6:30pm – this is usually are unwinding time so Lorenzo has free play with his toys or again tv time and we’ll they are busy I’m doing the mum routine and getting everything ready for the morning as I start at 8am so we usually leave the house early.

I begin with packing his daycare bag. He just got a new “hot wheels” backpack for his second birthday. And mum also is happy as it’s a lot bigger in space and more room.

Whats in Lorenzo’s daycare bag.

• fitted sheet for rest time with his blanket.

• Thomas the tank engine bucket hat.

• lots of spare clothes as he loves water play and getting messy.

After his backpack is packed and ready waiting for the morning ahead. My next task is too transfer the washing from our washing machine to our dryer and then tonight we had one more load which is both hubby and our work clothes also getting washed for the week ahead.

6:45pm – now it’s time to get Lorenzos room ready for bed, I go into his room and close his window and blinds and make his bed by placing his sleep toys on his bed. He enjoys sleeping with his chase, Marshall and we have Ollie the owl for him. If you don’t know what Ollie the owl is I have done a blog review on this product Lorenzo has been using this since birth. It’s a owl that has four different sleep sounds with a night light, Ollie the owl is programmed to play when your child cries or begins to toss and turn, he plays for 30 minutes each time and it keeps your child settled and have a good rest at night. Lorenzo sleeps with calming sleep music in his daycare room as it’s played in all rooms so for the moment we have no desire to get rid of Ollie the owl.

I also filled up his water cup with water. We no longer am on rice milk to sleep but we found he still liked the comfort of a Sippy cup in bed at night so it’s just filled with water for when he needs some.

Once the chores are done for me I finally get to enjoy some family time with hubby and Lorenzo.

6:50pm – story book time. Tonight was his dinosaur book that he got for his second birthday, he loves dinosaurs at the moment.

7pm- Lorenzo’s bed time. We clean his room because he likes to throw his books out of his bookself and we tuck him in and both kiss him good night and tuck him in. And we walk out and he goes to sleep on his own.

Once Lorenzo is asleep which some nights he fights it and others he doesn’t im usually already in my PJs as I do my shower routine when he’s in the bath as it’s just easy for us and works. So by 8pm until whenever I chose to go to bed which most nights is around 9:30pm as he does wake at 6am on the dot every morning. This is usually my free time on the couch watching my shows or I’ll already be in bed watching Netflix and fall asleep.

But this pretty much sums up a normal week night routine for the Caesar household. Hope you enjoyed that little insight into our home.

The Caesar family ❌

How we are preparing our toddler for our new arrival

Welcoming a new baby into the family is something you can’t just expect a child to wake up one day and Understand. I’ve been a educator for nine years and I’ve seen many families welcome in new babies into their families and first hand how these children have reacted.

When it comes to my own son I’ve been honest with him right from the start about our pregnancy so he’s been made aware from day one to now. We are 13 weeks away from welcoming his new baby sister and here’s what we have been doing to make him prepared and not surprised by her arrival.

Our first big thing is Lorenzo has been 100% involved in this journey just as much as both hubby & I have. When we told him we showed him where babies come from and yes you may think how would a two year old even understand, it’s not about him understanding it’s more having him build and get used to the idea someone will be joining in his comfort circle. He’s come to a hospital appointment with me and I’ve made him aware of the hospital, I’ve shown and spoken about all my scans. When we knew it was a baby girl we have never not called her baby girl as baby girl and once we knew her name we have also been calling her name when he’s around.

The second thing we have been doing is not hiding watching baby videos and letting him see a new born baby cry, we have been playing old baby videos of himself. There’s one thing knowing what a baby is but also understanding that the real thing isn’t like a doll and you can’t just throw it on the floor when your bored. We have made him aware but having him there when we moved his old crib into her soon to be room and talking not him about how it’s her bed now and that he has his big brother bed for his big brother room.

Our third thing that has changed is we are trying to have some “special” time with Lorenzo before our baby girls arrival. I’ve seen the effects of what new babies bring to the other child and we understand Lorenzo will take a while to adjust as it’s a completely new thing. I know that when our girl is here for the first few weeks my time will be divided big time! And most of that time will be with her and I myself am a little sad about this as I don’t ever want Lorenzo to feel left out or un-loved by me any less, so yes these past few weeks Lorenzo has been getting one on one time a lot with his mummy. Making special memories with him and making sure he know no matter what he is always baby boy and a new baby doesn’t mean I don’t love him any less.

Our fourth thing we did but was kind of our first is we looked for children books all about babies and becoming a big brother, every night we read a story as a family so we made sure some nights a week “not every night” because he would get sick of it. But most nights he reads all about being a big brother and all the things he can help with, then we discuss this as a family for example we have asked if he will help mummy feed his baby sister, or brush her hair etc.

Our fifth change is giving Lorenzo more responsibility, as he will be a big brother we have tried to make him start doing little things for himself as he’s a “big boy” now. After dinner he now throws his bowl or plate into the kitchen sink, he also opens the fridge and gets his own juice out ” we have filled a bottle of water” something easy for him to carry to us and we make him put it back himself. He helps pick up all his own toys when we clean the house and he even helps his daddy feed our family dog zues. We are hoping by giving him more responsibility and freedom will make him feel more like a big boy and less like the baby of the house anymore and also that we will trust him when it comes to helping his baby sister.

Our last change will be when she is born, the day after we will bring our son up to the hospital and just have it be the four of us, giving him that time to bond and Understand for himself this is his new baby sister because I know it will be hard for him to adjust he’s so used to my big old belly and he won’t understand why she’s out now. We also want lorenzo to be there with us the first few days as well all adjust as a family of three to a family of four, I don’t want to send Lorenzo off to daycare well he knows we are at home without him or send him to my parents I want lorenzo there for it all.

This brings me to the end, this is everything we have been doing in the Caesar household to make Lorenzo ready as best as we can for his new baby sister to arrive. If your a second time parent or third & fourth I would love to know how you guys transitioned your child for the new arrival and did it work? Or should I say what worked for your guys and what didn’t work for you guys?

The Caesar family ❌