Parent with us

As I sit here and start to write up this blog that’s been on my to do list for a while, I’m struggling to find a “catchy” title.. a title that brings in my followers and makes you want to read this blog. But all that comes into my mind is motherhood, this is motherhood this is how I parent my two year old.

Before I get into what this blog is actually about “even if your confused” it will all make sense very soon.i promise. I want to “sell” myself again I guess.. I’m a 26 year old women who is a mother to a little boy named Lorenzo Robert Caesar who is two and a very inderpent little boy who knows what he wants, I’m also a wife both my hunny and I have been together for seven years and we are far from perfect but we work well togther as a couple and a team when it comes to parenting. Our world is about to become a whole lot busyer as I’m currently 36 weeks pregnant with our baby girl. Oh and we have a very active dog named zues! And that’s how we became the “Caesar family.”

The Caesar family

When we firsted welcomes our son into this crazy thing we call life, our whole world changed the way we were as a couple and how we handled situations changed. Before hubby and I had children we really struggled with how we communicated with each other, a lot of it was me and bringing my past relationships into every situation which for better understanding, my relationship before hubby was with a guy who only saw me “so to speak” when we had fights and we had big fights. Our whole relationship “if you can even call it that.” Was just fighting every day it was a very toxic and unhappy environment which is all I’ll go into detail about. But with hubby I really took those unhealthy habits from my past and just couldn’t shake them from what was a amazing relationship, too the point a broke up with my hubby because he was too nice which it wasn’t until he was gone for me to see and realise he was everything I needed and more.

Our first year togther

When we used to have a fight it was always me who would just blow up straight away and it wasn’t until later on when I realised that was me just putting those walls up straight away and trying to protect myself.. hubby soon realised what I was doing and every time we had a fight or disagreement at the beginning of our relationship he would always try and reassure me that this was try a disagreement and we would work it out and be ok.

Fast forward a few years and now we are parents the way we have disagreements is completely different. When we first became parents we both really had to adjust and this of course meant learning how to parent togther which was hard at first, but two years later we finally have it togther “sometimes.” We sat down one night and spoke about everything and one thing we both could agree on what what we said in front of our children would have long lasting effects and that we didn’t want to put any negative impact on our children.

For us this means when we both disagree with each other at the time and are in front of anyone we just have this “look” I can’t explain the look but we just know each other’s looks and it’s like we make a sticky note about it in our heads and always bring it up when we are in privite rather air our laundry in front of our son or friends and family. This works well for us and trust me it took as a really long time to get to that place of we both sir down and let each other have our say rather just both thinking we are right and the other person is wrong.

I truly am a believer that once you and your partner have found each other’s “love language” and a way to communicate each other’s frustrations in positive ways, it shows in how you parent and work with each other then without.

But please don’t take this as I think we have work out and cracked parenting and our relationship and think we are perfect because trust me we probably do more “wrong” then “right” sometimes but I’m saying it works for us. This is our journey into parenthood and marriage and hubby and I have both have been very intentional with how we communicate and parent our children. We both look at our journey and where we have come from to where we are now and what/ how we want our children to see us and remember.

Our parenting style is simple we choose to do things togther, we put our family first. The way we couple is also simple we choose to always communicate togther and listen and not air our dirty laundry in front of ours but with each other.

When I say we parent togther I really do mean this. One thing we asked each other when we first gave birth to our son Lorenzo was “how do we want our children to grow.?” For us it was simple we both agreed that we wanted our children to always feel loved no matter what. We want out children to grow up remembering those little things such as the extra cuddles, extra time spent at the dinner tables being more internal with our children and always putting them first. For us this means we both tuck our son in at night, we both kiss him and say we love him, we both teach our son right from wrong, we both spend that one on one time with him.

When our sweet baby girl comes we both know we will have to change and adjust to a family of four but I believe we can and we will be just as successful with how we cope with whatever life gives us just as much as we already are now.

The Caesar family ♡

36 weeks pregnant with only 4 weeks to go

I did it, I made it to 36 weeks and I’m still going. This week has been so physically hard on my body and I can slowly feel myself shutting down so I know this is my body trying to tell me I’m done. This week was my first week not working and being on leave which felt weird but also nice at the same time, I did have pre plans for this time before baby girl makes her arrival into the world, I really wanted to enjoy my alone time with no hubby and having our two year old still in daycare. But the world has other plans for me right now and the big main one is doing my part and staying home and keeping this baby happy and healthy.

Hubby is still working which is good for right now as so many people are losing their jobs in Australia right now and we both decided to keep our son in daycare and keeping up with his normal routine as much as possible. I know a lot of parents will read this and not understand but I am not only a mother I too am a childcare educator, the centre that my son Lorenzo attends is the same place I work at and have worked at for the past five years. All the educators are bleaching toys and furniture daily and I know this for a fact as just last week I was one of them. all children from other age groups and rooms have been keeping their distance and all measurements have been put into place to continue a healthy environment. Not only am I 100% happy with how clean all the teachers are keeping the place, I know that childcare educators are at risk of losing their jobs for every child that is kept home or un-enrolling is one job taken from a childcare educator who has their own family to think about, Lorenzo will still be attending until our baby girl is born, hubby and I have spoken about once she is born we will keep him home for a while “we still are trying to work this out.” then re-send him when we know she is healthy and safe.

This weeks pregnant systems.

• reflux which has pretty much been a weekly update since hitting my third trimester.

• constipation but also at the same time normal bowel movements.. I know TMI

• heaps of movement from baby girl she’s deffiently running out of room.

• massive feeling like I need to push from my bum, lots of pressure in that area I think she must be very low.

Bump update.

Had a OB check up this week, baby girl is head down still and very active and moving around which is good. My blood pressure was a little low for the OB and he did check it twice and it didn’t pick up and then the next day my mother “who used to be a midwife.” checked it herself and it was still low, so I’m trying to keep my water levels up as I think it’s because I’ve been slack and not drinking heaps of water as I should be.

Baby girls heart rate was good, the blood flow etc was good. was sent for a blood test which I’ll get the results back on Monday when I see my OB as we are now at weekly check ups until she arrives into this world.

I can’t wait to see what week 37 brings to the table or if she comes next week or not.

The Caesar Family.

Scared to give birth at such a devastating time

I wasn’t going to comment or make such a blog about the covid- 19 as I think everyone clearly knows about what’s happening in the world right now and you really don’t need one more person reminding you to take better care of ourselves. But as I went food shopping today and saw these two elderly people struggling to walk and push their own trolly and all I wanted to do was offer help.. which I stilled did even knowing they can’t accept it, that moment was probably the hardest for me and I began to cry.

To top everything off we received a email from our hospital with some updated rules that are now set in place to help protect myself and baby girl when she’s born and other hospital staff.

No longer will I have family members come and visit myself or baby girl or friends as I’m only aloud one person daily which clearly will be hubby as he wants to be with his new child as much as possible. But no children under the age of 16 are aloud in hospital which means my two year old son can’t visit and meet his new baby sister until we are home, I get why these rules are in place and I’m 100% ok with that but it still hurts.

My sweet baby girls birth will always be a story and not for the right reasons, I will always look back at this when my child was born when the virus was so bad the whole world was put on lock down, I will always remember that my mother was at my son’s birth but missed my daughter’s and not because she wanted to but because she had too. I’ll always remember being alone in a hospital room well waiting to take my baby girl home and in a safe place.

I understand why these rules are set in place and I agree with all of them for the safety and wellbeing of everyone right now but it doesn’t make it easier for me, a moment for me that I was looking forward too has now changed too a moment I’m scared about, a moment I feel anxious about. A moment I feel worried about. Which I shouldn’t feel this way about the birth of my second but that’s just the reality of the world right now. So now I’m trying to prepare myself for the birth of my sweet baby girl in a completely new setting.

My new birth plan at this stage is too just be ok, to breath and try and take in all the good moments and let go of those other feelings. To try and not get too inside my own head when it’s just me and baby girl in hospital… that’s my new birth plan.

35 week pregnancy update

Things are getting real for us, gone are the weeks that they felt so slow and I was pregnant forever… now I’m writing up my 35th pregnancy weekly update well I’m “late” and already a few days into week 36..

But here is my 35 week pregnancy update better late than never.

This weeks pregnant systems:

• she is deffiently lower! This week I’ve struggled walking long distances as she gets right down low.

• having a full time sleep in the thing of a past

• reflux it hits really bad when I’m lying in my bed at night.

Bump update:

Im 100% ready for baby girl to make her arrival into the world as I’m so over being pregnant. But I know she is safer in my belly right now with everything going on in the world right now.

It Was my last week of work this week and as sad as I was leaving my children in my class room I’m so happy to be resting and relaxing a little before baby girl is here.

34 weeks down 5 weeks left too go

As the weeks keep moving along and I keep getting closer and closer to giving birth I’m slowly finding myself more and more scared for all the unknowns.

Yes I’ve been through child birth before so I know what to expect this time so that part doesn’t scare me as much, but after child birth after the hospital and when we finally get to go home part!? That’s what scares me the most… hubby just had a massive change in careers “for the better of our family and future.” But with this it means he only just began full time work with his new company so any chance of him having time off to help is a thing of the past. This wasn’t our plan for him to get a new job as he had one already that paid good. But this new company asked for him, his boss had to fight for him a little and already he has been given so many benefits that no other company has ever offered him before. So we know it was the right move for our family but yes it doesn’t make it easier for me knowing he will have two days with me in hospital and straight back at work.

My next thing that I’m scared about is if I’ll even be a good mother to two children, I don’t want Lorenzo to feel left out or that he’s not loved because he will always be my first born and my baby boy. How do parents split there love between children? How do mothers get two children in the car at the same time with such ease and grace? How does your toddler sleep at night well a new born baby wakes up 3 times a night? This is where my mind is traveling too right now. This is where I begin to get scared thinking about the unknow. So yes the weeks are going much faster until her arrival but I just wish they would slow down a little bit. I wish I could breath for a second, spend a little more time with my sweet baby boy before our world is changed forever.

This weeks pregnant systems:

• leg cramps in my sleep “So painful.”

• waking up at nights and having trouble sleeping

• pee stops a lot!

• nesting

• mood swings very emotional

• pelvis pain as she is now head down and I find the more I walk the lower she goes and the more painful it gets.

• can’t bend at all as my reflux gets worse.

• shooting sharp pains straight down

• cold and flu symptoms at night, sore throat but I’m fine durning the day.

Bump update.

34 weeks

I’m off to see my OB next week when I’m 35 weeks pregnant so I’m excited to see what will happen and what he has to say about baby girl, at our last check up she was head down and he had said she will now probably stay head down until she’s ready to come which didn’t mean was soon just meant that she’s in the correct position and when it was time she would come. Everything was looking good and healthy which I was super happy about. So I can’t wait to see what this check up with my OB will bring.

Bring on 35 weeks pregnant!

Nursery tour 🌷

I’ve had so much fun buying all things girly and pretty for our second little baby, I did enjoy doing the same for Lorenzo but not going to lie buying cute little headbands and outfits is all that little bit more special.

I’m happy with how her room turned out and can’t wait to see her in it.

Her nappy change table set up is pretty simple. In one basket I have nothing but singlets for under all her zip ups as she will be a winter baby. The other busket has lots of socks to keep her little toes nice and warm.

The baskets I was given by my sister when I was pregnant with Lorenzo so I unfortunately can’t write where they are from.

Change table is from target. Retail price $100

Behind the baskets I have some nice warm blankets. With also some sleep wraps for when she’s a newborn. Then I have a basket at the back which is filled with wipes, baby creams and shampoo and a baby bottle with her first packet of newborn nappies.

In the coner of her room we have the cot all set up for her but she won’t be sleeping in her own room until six months so we do have her pram nice and set up in front of it and out of the way. With her pink winter blanket.

Her cot again from target and the retail price is around $100 And $50 for mattress. The bedding & change mat are from my first pregnancy with my son so haven’t upgraded in those areas.

Her wardrobe tour ♡

Most of them are bonds as I love bonds

Her four white cube is from kmart Australia. Retail price $19 the little fake plant is $9 and the diffuser is $29 All kmart

Chair is kmart $69 And foot stool also kmart $29 And pillow is also kmart $5 the cow rug us from my son’s old room from kmart but can longer rember the price.

The cow high rug is again also kmart retail price $30

All up for the decor in baby girls room we spent about $190 on her room this is not adding in the cot or change table etc as we had already pre owned them from our first child so if you factor those items the total amount of of baby girls room is $390.

I think when it comes to styling your home the way you want to style it doesn’t have to coat you a arm and a leg and you can style a room on a budget as well. I love kmart because of this reason and I’m actually so happy with how her room has turned out and I can’t wait until she’s here to enjoy her room.

Hope you have enjoyed her little nursery tour.

33 weeks

As the weeks keep passing along I’m getting more and more ready to meet our sweet baby girl. I’m actually starting to get my hopes up over and over again that this week will finally be the week she comes even though I know I’m only 33 weeks and it’s still way to early but I think I’m just getting over it.

This weeks pregnant systems have been.

• Braxton hicks

• on and off sleep

• sickness and diarrhea on and off.

• engrey levels low.

• everything is starting to feel tight and I’m struggling to breath and gone are the days of sitting on the floor with the kids at work or with my son at home.

• I actually feel like I’m losing weight like my face is getting slimer and I’m not holding that water weight as much as I was last week.

Ob check up:

Every two weeks I see my OB at the hospital and this week was my check up. Baby girl is doing well she’s 70% cooked which apparently is a little on the chubby side but her head is still measuring smaller but blood flow etc is good. Her little head is now in my pelvis area and he said she will probably stay head down now until she’s ready to come and make it into the world.

Don’t ask what I’m looking at because I don’t know.

The weeks seem to be going slower and I’m starting to get more and more tired of pregnancy.. I’m trying so hard to enjoy these last few weeks as I’ll never get them back but man I can’t wait for baby girl to be here.

Can’t wait to see what 34 weeks of pregnancy brings me.

32 weeks of love

The weeks seem to be getting slower and slower and I’m just so ready to meet our sweet baby girl. Hubby and have started the guessing game if she will be early, on time or late. I said on time and hubby is going with late so I guess we will see what the next few weeks bring.

This week’s pregnant systems:

• leg cramps ( really painful) at night and super annoying as they will wake me up if I move my leg the wrong way.

• dry white/ yellow stuff leaking out of my right boob!? Didn’t get this with my first born so Hopfully this is a good sign for my breastfeeding journing.

• having dreams again at night, some nights I’ve been dreaming about labour and there kind of scary dreams about this topic, other nights its about random stuff such as my car being stolen etc.

• really sore boobs to the point I can’t even touch them anymore they hurt.

• Really Bad Braxton hicks I thought I was in early stages of labour as they were very different this time around compared to what I normally get. but again not consent and they soon stopped…

• reflux

• super tired and run down

Bump update:

How I’m feeling.

I wanted to add this in because although social media makes pregnancy look amazing and all that jaz I just want to be 100% honest with you all. I’ve always been a very honest real person on social media and off and nothing will change this. My first pregnancy was a walk in the park compared to this pregnancy… And that’s saying something as I was forever in and out of hospital and almost lost Lorenzo in our second trimester as I was throwing up blood and it wouldn’t stop. But nope Lorenzo was easy compared to baby girl. Everyone fails to mention how hard second pregnancy is on your body, how physically and mentally your done.. full time work, two year old at home and 33 weeks pregnant… definitely won’t be doing this again I think my body and my state of mind needs a long break from childbirth and pregnancy and I think I’m content with two and so is hubby.

Next week I’ll have more to report as we see pur OB every two weeks and that check up is next Tuesday so I’m looking forward to seeing baby girl and how she’s going and giving you all a massive update.

The Caesar family

What’s in my hospital bag for baby number two!

I remember my first pregnancy with my now two year old Lorenzo, I was put on bed rest due to issues with my body and I was told to be prepared so of course as a first time mother I packed his hospital bag I think before I was even 30 weeks pregnant… fast forward to now, two years later and my second pregnancy having Braxton hicks daily and yet didn’t start packing my hospital bag until I was 33 weeks pregnant oh how times have changed.

I’ll have that blog linked down below if your interested in seeing what I packed for baby number one compared to baby number two.

https://newmummyblogger94.blog/2017/12/19/whats-in-my-hospital-bag-%F0%9F%92%BC/amp/

I have two bags one for baby girl and one for me. First I’ll show you everything in baby girls hospital bag.

Her bag is from mimco

I’ve put all her outfits into little zip lock bags and easy to get too etc.

One thing I learnt from my first pregnancy is that having everything together and easy to reach when needed is the way too go. And sorry husbands but also just easier for the men who don’t understand that a crazy pregnant lady had already pre planned what outfits will look better together.

Ive packed four outfits for baby girl as I was told we would be in hospital for max a week but I really want to leave ealier then that if i can. Last time I packed nine and that was way too much! So again ive learnt a lot from my first time around and I think four outfits are are a good amount.

Each outfit has also been packed with a singlet and a pair of socks as we are heading into winter and it will be a chilly one.

Most of her outfits are from bonds as I’m in love with bonds.

I’ve even packed a few extra hats and mittens for her head and hands to stay warm.

When we went to our last hospital “we have chosen a different hospital, this time around.” We had so many different midwifes stay how to wrap up our baby and how we were doing it wrong.. again this is just the journey of learning as first time parents. This time around I’m not putting myself in that position again so we have packed a baby swaddle that is a zip up and easy to use and no need for worry about if she’s wrapped the correct way.

Our next little thing we packed is her name tag we had made for us for her arrival photo when we are in hospital. I can’t show you the front as it has her name but I can’t wait until she’s here to show you the front of it.

Our last two items for baby girls hospital bag are her nappies and wipes. I forgot how cute newborn nappies are.

Now that I’ve covered baby girls hospital bag I can finally show you mine.

First things first the pads… the postpartum life isn’t that sexy.

In the front pocket I have 3 nursering bras and a whole heaps of granny undies.

Lose fitted PJ top easy to lift up when breast feeding and comfy for the hospital and warm.

Comfy pj pants

Going home outfit. Comfy black pants and just a comfy top and again easy for breast feeding.

For my hospital stay I have two outfits as I’m sure I’ll just live in my PJs.. I have this lose fitted top that has buttons again easy for breast feeding.

With the lose fitted top I’ve paired it with my comfy pregnancy pants to hide my postpartum belly.

My second hospital stay outfit is just a oversized dress something comfy to just be around the hospital in.

Bathroom bag.

I’ve got a travel sized bathroom bag to pack into my hospital bag which I’ve just packed.

• hair brush

• toothbrush and toothpaste

• travel size shampoo

• dry shampoo in case I just don’t have time to wash my hair.

• make up bag

•body wash

• deorent

• breast feeding pads

• towel

• paw paw cream for dry skin

Extras that have been packed.

• phone charger

• camera

•phone

• wallet with my money and heath care cards etc. The important stuff.

That pretty much covers everything I need to pack for the hospital. Only one month left until baby girl is finally here

31 weeks and over it

This week was a hard week… I feel like I’m just repeating myself every week when I day this but I guess as I’m getting closer and closer to my due date things are just getting crazy.

I was one big emotional mess this week. Found myself crying myself to sleep one night thinking the hubby doesn’t love me anymore.. he does and I’m just that crazy pregnant women.

We finally began getting the hospital bags ready for her arrival this week. We chatted with everyone in my family about our game plan for the hospital and who would come take care of our son, we spoke with our photograph about our photos coming up and paid that all off. We did a lot dispite feeling so emotionally run down and tired.

This week’s pregnant systems

• every time I blow my nose I now always have a little blood mixed with it.

• Braxton hicks happen a lot! When I’m at work I’ll get them twice a day just by being on my feet or if I clean my house etc, sometimes super painful and others just normal cramping. I guess second pregnancy it’s a normal thing.

• I wake every night now on and off sleep has become a normal thing which my body is just used to and I guess it’s only going to get worse when she’s born.

• leg cramps at night and super painful

• dizziness

• not hungry as much anymore and don’t really get to finish a whole meal and some nights I’ve gone without dinner because I just don’t feel like it.

• shortness of breath.

• at the end of a working day my feet are puffy, my rings don’t feet my fingers…

• very emotional

Bump update:

Our OB check up.

We saw our OB this week as we now see him every two weeks. I spoke about the Braxton hicks and the spotting I had last week… he was worried about the bleeding and if it happens again I have to go in straight away and not wait. As for all my Braxton hicks… Well I guess I just have to get used to them until she comes.

Only 8 weeks left now! I can’t wait to meet my sweet baby girl and have our family finally feel complete.