Welcoming a new baby into the family is something you can’t just expect a child to wake up one day and Understand. I’ve been a educator for nine years and I’ve seen many families welcome in new babies into their families and first hand how these children have reacted.
When it comes to my own son I’ve been honest with him right from the start about our pregnancy so he’s been made aware from day one to now. We are 13 weeks away from welcoming his new baby sister and here’s what we have been doing to make him prepared and not surprised by her arrival.
Our first big thing is Lorenzo has been 100% involved in this journey just as much as both hubby & I have. When we told him we showed him where babies come from and yes you may think how would a two year old even understand, it’s not about him understanding it’s more having him build and get used to the idea someone will be joining in his comfort circle. He’s come to a hospital appointment with me and I’ve made him aware of the hospital, I’ve shown and spoken about all my scans. When we knew it was a baby girl we have never not called her baby girl as baby girl and once we knew her name we have also been calling her name when he’s around.
The second thing we have been doing is not hiding watching baby videos and letting him see a new born baby cry, we have been playing old baby videos of himself. There’s one thing knowing what a baby is but also understanding that the real thing isn’t like a doll and you can’t just throw it on the floor when your bored. We have made him aware but having him there when we moved his old crib into her soon to be room and talking not him about how it’s her bed now and that he has his big brother bed for his big brother room.
Our third thing that has changed is we are trying to have some “special” time with Lorenzo before our baby girls arrival. I’ve seen the effects of what new babies bring to the other child and we understand Lorenzo will take a while to adjust as it’s a completely new thing. I know that when our girl is here for the first few weeks my time will be divided big time! And most of that time will be with her and I myself am a little sad about this as I don’t ever want Lorenzo to feel left out or un-loved by me any less, so yes these past few weeks Lorenzo has been getting one on one time a lot with his mummy. Making special memories with him and making sure he know no matter what he is always baby boy and a new baby doesn’t mean I don’t love him any less.
Our fourth thing we did but was kind of our first is we looked for children books all about babies and becoming a big brother, every night we read a story as a family so we made sure some nights a week “not every night” because he would get sick of it. But most nights he reads all about being a big brother and all the things he can help with, then we discuss this as a family for example we have asked if he will help mummy feed his baby sister, or brush her hair etc.
Our fifth change is giving Lorenzo more responsibility, as he will be a big brother we have tried to make him start doing little things for himself as he’s a “big boy” now. After dinner he now throws his bowl or plate into the kitchen sink, he also opens the fridge and gets his own juice out ” we have filled a bottle of water” something easy for him to carry to us and we make him put it back himself. He helps pick up all his own toys when we clean the house and he even helps his daddy feed our family dog zues. We are hoping by giving him more responsibility and freedom will make him feel more like a big boy and less like the baby of the house anymore and also that we will trust him when it comes to helping his baby sister.
Our last change will be when she is born, the day after we will bring our son up to the hospital and just have it be the four of us, giving him that time to bond and Understand for himself this is his new baby sister because I know it will be hard for him to adjust he’s so used to my big old belly and he won’t understand why she’s out now. We also want lorenzo to be there with us the first few days as well all adjust as a family of three to a family of four, I don’t want to send Lorenzo off to daycare well he knows we are at home without him or send him to my parents I want lorenzo there for it all.
This brings me to the end, this is everything we have been doing in the Caesar household to make Lorenzo ready as best as we can for his new baby sister to arrive. If your a second time parent or third & fourth I would love to know how you guys transitioned your child for the new arrival and did it work? Or should I say what worked for your guys and what didn’t work for you guys?
The Caesar family ❌