The first few months are a blur you can’t remember when you last showered so you usually end up doubling in your showers. Looking back on the early days I really struggle to remember most memories so my first piece of advice is have a “baby journal.” I wish I had written down every day with Lorenzo from the start until now, for not only for me to look back on but for my children to one day read back on.
Being sleep deprived was a big thing for me in the first few months and I look back on this and definitely wish I had done things different. My whole pregnancy I had my mum telling me and others would say “you sleep when the baby sleeps.” And when Lorenzo was born I definitely didn’t take this advice or found it hard to sleep when others had my son so I could rest. I wish I could of used that time better and actually forced myself to sleep when others looked after him or when he was also sleeping, because those waking 3 times a night for feeds is crazy! Plus Lorenzo really struggled with falling asleep.
This was a daily struggle that I as a new mother listen to my midwifes advice even once I had left the hospital and I wish I didn’t to be honest. Only because Lorenzo didn’t sleep in his own crib, Lorenzo only would sleep on me which for a first time mum I didn’t understand why and one day I placed him on his tummy and he had a 3 our sleep in his crib without waking and it was amazing! But of course the midwife tells you not to do that and worries so you begin to worry. So of course sleep never happened until Lorenzo got to 2 months and I just decided to do what was best for both of us and since that day on Lorenzo has been a tummy sleeper and still is. So honestly take in what the midwife tells you but don’t follow it from word from word because every baby is different.
Breastfeeding, a topic I struggle with because I still feel sad that this was something I couldn’t do for very long. I found everyday of breastfeeding hard, I found the midwifes didn’t try to help me as much as I needed that help, I found that the pressure to breastfeed was harder on my body then I realised. It took me a long time to deal with the fact that my son took the bottle better then the boob, and that after 3 weeks of breastfeeding he became a bottle boy full time.
My last piece of friendly advice is that don’t be so hard on yourself, I was way to hard on myself I thought I needed to know everything, I thought I had to do everything myself and have my ducks all in a row. But I look back on this a laugh! No one has their shit together and people definitely didn’t expect my house to be clean and me to be running around dressed and having my shit together real well.
Enjoy every moment with your newborn because they grow up so fast. It’s the most wonderful time of your life and you will only ever remember the happy moments.